In article <[email hidden]>, [email hidden] says...
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Y'know, eating something that you don't like will not kill you. I continue to be amazed at how many whiners expect the entire world to cater to their whims. Grow up - you are not the center of the universe.
Why does anyone expect anyone else to eat anything? Food should be offered, not forced! I have always served food in dishes and the diners are able to decide what to take, my children included. Why would you expect anyone to eat anything they do not like!!!! I wonder if you have issues with control?
You misunderstand my meaning. I would not force anyone to eat something - that's not the point. The problem is picky adult whiners expecting to have special food made to suit their narrow tastes. They are welcome to go hungry as far as I am concerned.
-- Peter Aitken Visit my recipe and kitchen myths pages at www.pgacon.com/cooking.htm
In article <[email hidden]>, [email hidden] says...
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Of course I'm not the center of the universe, I just play it on TV 🙂 I shouldn't feel I have to eat something if I don't want to. For all you know it might make me barf on your highly polished shoes. We wouldn't want that, would we? 😄 Simply offer me the choice and when I say politely, no thank you, accept it and move on. Similarly, I don't eat dessert. I don't care for sweets. So don't try to force it on me and make me eat it. That's just rude.
I'm not talking about someone inviting me to dinner and serving beef when I'd rather eat chicken. I'm not talking about someone serving me chicken but I'm a vegetarian (which I'm not). I'm talking about a simple salad, here. I don't want salad, is that okay with you?
See my response to ophelia.
-- Peter Aitken Visit my recipe and kitchen myths pages at www.pgacon.com/cooking.htm
Maybe but not necessarily. I know of women, usually of a certain generation, who put their husbands first in all cases. Go to an extended family picnic and they, knowing what their husbands want, elbow their way to get the first/best steaks for him while he's talking with the other guys, and delivers the plate to him. She's not being passive-aggressive; it's the "misplaced mommy" role. She's providing for a giant baby.
While that's a plausible diagnosis, I sensed a certain amount of tension which still leads me to favor the passive-aggressive personality disorder.
These possibilities could be resolved by challenging the subjects with a situation in which the female is offered a choice between an opportunity to further exercise her passive-aggressive behavior pattern versus appeasing her perceived notion of her husband's wishes.
For example, the couple could be presented with a cake (or other food item) which contains the husband's disfavored foods (so far as we know, beets and/or chocolate) constructed so that these bits can be easily removed. Would she pick out the undesired bits before presentation to her husband (thus indicating your "misplaced mommy" hypothesis) or would she dismiss the item as generally unsuitable for her husband because of these bits (which would support the passive-aggressive humiliation hypothesis)?
