All he needs to do is let her know that in another 5 years he'll have put on 35lb and with her on top it'd be like her riding a teeter totter.
Bike/Life Balance
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Well we still haven't heard from the chap so I'm going to assume she is in control and he is following orders like a sad puppy...buaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahaha.
The original post was 1 week 5 days ago. According to the OP's (devil94) profile his last visit at the forum was 1 week 2 days ago. So it does appear that he read the comments... and made his choice.
I wonder if he got the look.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrd9NCD4lpk&list=FLQIU4CDuIeZBHJpwR-oghhA&index=1&feature=plpp_video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrd9NCD4lpk&list=FLQIU4CDuIeZBHJpwR-oghhA&index=1&feature=plpp_video
I ride ~150 miles (8 hrs) a week. Sometimes I ride before work (more so in the Tucson summer heat), sometimes I ride after work, and then there are the longer weekend morning rides.
We're engaged and I'm not planning to pull the EJECT handle. I knew I would get it, but I really wasn't looking for all the psycho-analysis .... just wondering how others rationalize or justify their time spent on the bike.
I'm pretty stubborn on this front. The bike riding is keeping me fit so I can live a long life for her and my son. I don't plan to stop riding, but was hoping for a few "gems" to slide into the conversation with her.
I appreciate all the concern, and I really have enjoyed all the comments.
We're engaged and I'm not planning to pull the EJECT handle. I knew I would get it, but I really wasn't looking for all the psycho-analysis .... just wondering how others rationalize or justify their time spent on the bike.
I'm pretty stubborn on this front. The bike riding is keeping me fit so I can live a long life for her and my son. I don't plan to stop riding, but was hoping for a few "gems" to slide into the conversation with her.
I appreciate all the concern, and I really have enjoyed all the comments.
Let me add a different perspective. Not accusing, just another way of looking things.
Sometimes women feel that men aren't as mature or grown up as they are, men continue to have their toys (car's motorcycles, guns, bikes, etc) and they don't understand why the men continue to need toys when they have such a wonderful woman in their life.
Would she feel the same if you were instead going to the gym to workout?
Maybe her perspective of what you are doing is inaccurate and a good conversation or something needs to be had.
Or maybe I should have stayed out of this thread.
As I said, not accusing or anything, I have more toys than most men and any woman I know of but then again my ex didn't tolerate it either. (single & happy now)
Good luck/best wishes.
Sometimes women feel that men aren't as mature or grown up as they are, men continue to have their toys (car's motorcycles, guns, bikes, etc) and they don't understand why the men continue to need toys when they have such a wonderful woman in their life.
Would she feel the same if you were instead going to the gym to workout?
Maybe her perspective of what you are doing is inaccurate and a good conversation or something needs to be had.
Or maybe I should have stayed out of this thread.
As I said, not accusing or anything, I have more toys than most men and any woman I know of but then again my ex didn't tolerate it either. (single & happy now)
Good luck/best wishes.
Rob Becker's show, "Defending the Caveman" gives pretty good insight into some of this.
http://www.cavemania.com/05-about-rob.html
But my recommendation stands. Once you spend a lot of time together, spending time away from her to do your own things will not be a problem for her.
That time away will probably even be encouraged after a lot of time together... ;^)
I agree with BadWolf--boys like their toys. The women that figure out that it's okay to let them out and play once in a while will be happier in the long run, because guys generally like to blow off steam in physical ways instead of talking it out with a close friend. Definitely works for me. After a rough day at work, a hard bike ride can turn my attitude around and the endorphins/adrenaline make me feel like I can take it all head-on afterwards.
I went to see this show at the colonial theater in Boston maybe about ten years ago. We were walking out and right in front of us two cave men got into a fist fight out on the sidewalk. It was so unreal that many onlookers thought it was part of the show.
Oddly enough, that's where I caught the bug - I was commuting <4 mi each way*, got done one day and was just disgusted with the general state of my job, turned R instead of L and 20 miles later I was going "y'know, I kinda like this"
* - I didn't really take longer rides; my bike was heavy and I was too worried about being a total Fred
I hate to say it but this is definitely a red flag. Exercise is paramount in staying fit. What does she do to stay fit? If nothing, she may be one of those wide-body wives in a few short years. My wife has gotten on my case about how I spend my time through the years but when it comes to exercise, she backs me 100%. If your "fiancee" can't come around to your way of thinking on this, you have big problems ahead.
+100. Self-centered and ego driven. This attitude will never stop. Don't say you weren't warned...
