Hurtful Comments

Amber,

I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't have friends or family who are like this and you
shouldn't have to go through it. The worst thing I've had happen is a friend talking to me about
eating things before bed and how maybe if I gave that up I'd lose weight better. As I explained to
her I shouldn't have to give up what every skinny people do if I'm doing it within reason. Since
then she hasn't said anything and has been supportive. Unfortunately I don't have any advice on how
to handle this but would love to offer support for you to vent!!!!

--
Janice
263/257/150 (maybe 130)

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I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

Hi Amber,

The closest I've had recently was my fiance attempting to "help" by watching over my shoulder and
continually saying "should you eat that?", and that was last year. When I started doing WW I didn't
tell him at all for a few months, and then when I did I laid down the law and told him that if he
uttered those words again I would slap him upside the head because it was NOT supportive. Now he's
modified it to things like "do you have the points for that", since he at least somewhat understands
the concept of points.

My fiance, BTW, is on the shorter size for a guy (about 5'8"😉 and wears a size Medium. His mother
has been telling him for the last few years that he's getting fat. Yeesh. You can imagine what
she thinks of me. Fortunately when she starts badmouthing me it's in another language 🙂 The only
part I know is that part that translates to "evil white devil woman"! 😉 At least "fat" isn't in
that phrase.

Amberle3

Amber said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

--
Amberle3
249/224/220-minigoal/150?
Renewed my commitment to me 3/30/03

Happy Healthy Holidays Exercise Challenge:
angelfire.comhhh.htmOpen ↗

New Year, New You Weight Loss Challenge:
angelfire.comnyny.htmOpen ↗

So sorry to hear you were hurt, Amber. I'm 60 years old and throughout all my life I have been
subject to my mother's criticizm regarding my weight. Actually, that's not so, when I was a teen
wearing size 10 I don't remember her saying anything, but then she didn't seem to care anyway. She
was no lightweight herself and didn't lose her weight till after she was 55. Then she put herself
and my dad on a starvation diet. Sure she lost the weight and kept it off, but she was not healthy
afterwards. I loved my mom, but I don't miss her. She made my life miserable as well as my dad with
lack of support and undermining, uncaring behavior. Don't pay any attention to what your friend
said. I doubt she meant to hurt you, but hindsight is 20/20. I would tell her how I felt.

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Quoted message said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

hey, are you happy with how the haircut turned out? THAT'S what's really important! If you feel
good, nuts to everyone else! I do think there are people in the world (and many of them) that the
only way they can feel better about themselves is to point out what they think are the flaws of
others ... even if they aren't there. My guess is that your friend has noticed your weightloss and
is somewhat jealous, but unwilling to do anything about her own needs.

I haven't encountered too many hurtful things, or just haven't noticed ... until today, and I blew
it off. My brother came over today to go with me to take mom out for lunch. Walked in the door of my
house and told me I looked anorexic (I don't, I'm not - trust me!). It hurt, I was a bit put off but
after thinking more about it I can't help but think maybe he is a bit jealous? He had lost a bunch
of weight, but recently put much of it back on. Maybe by saying this to me, he thinks I will go back
to my old habits (like he has) and this will make him feel better? You know, like thinking "hey, if
she has the same problem I do, then I must be ok"?

I'm rambling ... they're morons. <g> You are NOT a fat, ugly person - please don't feel that way.
Don't let these people bring you down. I love the fact that this only seems to kick up your
motivation. That is really a positive! Use the ignorance of others to work to your advantage and
prove 'em all wrong!

Joyce current weight: 130; total loss 98.8 lbs Lifetime: 4/4/03

Amber said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt. Like
hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now because
of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends accept you for
who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't need another
cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should loose weight.
I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone else have a
similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

Heck yes your friends should accept you for who you are, but in the world
that doesn't always come out that way. They would probably say they were
just trying to be helpful because they love you. The Feelings are what is a
problem here, if you call yourself names like "fat" and "ugly" because of
what some person said, I don't think that will help you in the long run. I
spent most of my life calling myself things like that. It did not help me
lose the weight. You can choose to say to yourself "oh, she is just trying
to be helpful, poor thing........." or "she maybe is a little envious
because I am doing so well with WW" and pat yourself on the head for doing
good things for your body. If you feel good, it can't hurt you 🙂🙂

"Amber" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

Amber said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

Ha! Some friend that is! You can tell her from me that some 120 lb women have double chins! I did,
aged 19 and 120 lbs! Aged 46 and a lot heavier, I still have it. It's my face, I can have a double
chin if I want to! And where your hair is makes NO difference at all: even a beard doesn't hide a
double chin - ask an over weight bloke!
--

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Click on Kate's Pages and explore!

I think most people are only trying to help in the only way they know how.
It doesn't make what they do hurt any less. Remember, only YOU are in
control of your body, how you wear your hair, and what you do or do not eat.
In the end I acknowledge these hurt feelings to myself because it makes me
feel more in control and more determined to do what I know is best for my
body, I totally understand how you feel, Lee
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Quoted message said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

My own sister said something to me like that. I know she was not meaning to be hurtful, but it hurts
just the same. It was during the summer at a family gathering & I had a short sleeve blouse on. I
lifted my arm & she blurted out that I should never do that as it showed my hanging skin on my arms.
It was bad enough that she said it, but to say it so loudly to all that were there was
unforgiveable. But she just didn't think & really didn't mean to hurt me at all. I think she thought
that she was actually being kind to me drawing me attention to it - as if I didn't already know ;-)
I didn't say anything to her, but like, you, I have noticed so many people making comments that they
should keep to themselves. Elaine K
331.4/215.6/179

Amber said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

Amber said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt. Like
hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now because
of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends accept you for
who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't need another
cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should loose weight.
I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone else have a
similar experience? Feelings?

I'm sorry Amber, that wasn't very nice of your friend. Is she maybe feeling a little threatened by
your weight loss? People do and say funny things when they see someone achieving something they know
they should be doing.

No-one has ever said anything really nasty to me, but after I'd lost about 30 pounds, my sister very
kindly told me that she was thrilled I was losing weight, because the last time she'd seen me I had
an [censored] like the rear end of a truck. I was happy she'd kept that comment to herself until after I'd
been doing well with the weight loss. She recently apologised for saying it though.

Hang in there Amber, soon enough you'll have people showering you with compliments.

--
Erin in NZ
125/88.5/75 kgs
125.88/5.1/165 lbs

NYNY goal 180.6lbs (82 kilos)

"It is not the mountain we conquer, it is ourselves" Sir Edmund Hilary

What's important is how you feel about your hair cut and I'm sure you are happy with it or you
wouldn't have had it done. I bet it looks great!!!

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Quoted message said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

Hi Amber,

My father used to do this all the time. He thought he was doing things for the right reason.

I recently heard a young girl talking, on tv, about hurtful comments from others about her weight.
She said "They forget all about what they've said in just a few minutes. I think about the comments
for hours and hours afterwards." Those words really made me feel so bad for her. But I also
understood that people just don't think about the hurtful comments in the same way we do. It is OUR
internal dialogue after they've made a comment that really does the damage. i.e...your comment: I

Quoted message said:

guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now because of that, but it still makes me
feel like a fat, ugly, person.

We have to learn to be kinder to ourselves, and restructure our own thinking, since we can't change
what others say.

Good luck, Amber...try not to let someone else get you down.

And YES, we should expect our friends to accept us as we are. Everyone has imperfections of
some kind.

Carol

--
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318/242.4/169
71.6 lost since December 2002
I am a slim person in process.
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Quoted message said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above
my collar. I was in class today when my friend wrote me a note saying
that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I asked why? and she
pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same
double chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be
helpful, but this really hurt. Like hair can cover that up anyways. I
guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now because of
that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't
your friends accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's
always saying stuff about how I don't need another cookie or this and
that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should loose
weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do
this. Does anyone else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

On Fri, 21 Nov 2003 05:22:06 GMT, Amberle3 <[email hidden]>

Quoted message said:

Hi Amber,

The closest I've had recently was my fiance attempting to "help" by watching over my shoulder and
continually saying "should you eat that?", and that was last year. When I started doing WW I didn't
tell him at all for a few months, and then when I did I laid down the law and told him that if he
uttered those words again I would slap him upside the head because it was NOT supportive. Now he's
modified it to things like "do you have the points for that", since he at least somewhat
understands the concept of points.

My fiance, BTW, is on the shorter size for a guy (about 5'8"😉 and wears a size Medium. His mother
has been telling him for the last few years that he's getting fat. Yeesh. You can imagine what
she thinks of me. Fortunately when she starts badmouthing me it's in another language 🙂 The only
part I know is that part that translates to "evil white devil woman"! 😉 At least "fat" isn't in
that phrase.

You know it is hard to laugh when you have a laptop in your lap (G) And I resemble that guy height,
LADY!!!!! (G)

Quoted message said:

Amberle3

Amber said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I
should loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does
anyone else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

Ya know, I love some of the ignorant comments that come out of peoples mouths. <g> Calories are
calories, regardless as to the time of day you eat them. The body only needs a certain amount of
calories to run efficiently ... eat more than that amount and the end result is obvious. BUT those
calories can be consumed early in the day with the same results. I wonder what your friend would say
if they knew I had successfully lost 98 pounds while still eating before bedtime. <g>

Joyce current weight: 130; total loss 98.8 lbs Lifetime: 4/4/03

Janice Kennish said:

Amber,

I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't have friends or family who are like this and you
shouldn't have to go through it. The worst thing I've had happen is a friend talking to me about
eating things before bed and how maybe if I gave that up I'd lose weight better. As I explained to
her I shouldn't have to give up what every skinny people do if I'm doing it within reason. Since
then she hasn't said anything and has been supportive. Unfortunately I don't have any advice on how
to handle this but would love to offer support for you to vent!!!!

--
Janice
263/257/150 (maybe 130)

"Amber" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I
should loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does
anyone else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber

hee hee hee ! evil white devil woman! oh priceless.

"Amberle3" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Hi Amber,

The closest I've had recently was my fiance attempting to "help" by

watching

Quoted message said:

over my shoulder and continually saying "should you eat that?", and that

was

Quoted message said:

last year. When I started doing WW I didn't tell him at all for a few months, and then when I did
I laid down the law and told him that if he uttered those words again I would slap him upside the
head because it was NOT supportive. Now he's modified it to things like "do you have the

points

Quoted message said:

for that", since he at least somewhat understands the concept of points.

My fiance, BTW, is on the shorter size for a guy (about 5'8"😉 and wears a size Medium. His mother
has been telling him for the last few years that he's getting fat. Yeesh. You can imagine what she
thinks of me. Fortunately when she starts badmouthing me it's in another language 🙂

The

Quoted message said:

only part I know is that part that translates to "evil white devil woman"! 😉 At least "fat" isn't
in that phrase.

Amberle3

Amber said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I
should loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does
anyone else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

--
Amberle3
249/224/220-minigoal/150? Renewed my commitment to me 3/30/03

Happy Healthy Holidays Exercise Challenge: angelfire.comhhh.htmOpen ↗

New Year, New You Weight Loss Challenge: angelfire.comnyny.htmOpen ↗

Thank you all for your postivie support. You're right, it doesn't matter what she says!

Amber

Lesanne said:

Heck yes your friends should accept you for who you are, but in the world that doesn't always come
out that way. They would probably say they were just trying to be helpful because they love you.
The Feelings are what is a problem here, if you call yourself names like "fat" and "ugly" because
of what some person said, I don't think that will help you in the long run. I spent most of my
life calling myself things like that. It did not help me lose the weight. You can choose to say to
yourself "oh, she is just trying to be helpful, poor thing........." or "she maybe is a little
envious because I am doing so well with WW" and pat yourself on the head for doing good things for
your body. If you feel good, it can't hurt you 🙂🙂

"Amber" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

I think she said that because she is so self-concious about herself. Her husband puts her down a
lot about her weight, even in front of me. She believes that in order to be attractive, or a good
person you have to be thin. So I can dismiss the comment now that I think about it, but at the time
it did hurt.

Amber

Erin Marsh said:

Amber said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

I'm sorry Amber, that wasn't very nice of your friend. Is she maybe feeling a little threatened by
your weight loss? People do and say funny things when they see someone achieving something they
know they should be doing.

No-one has ever said anything really nasty to me, but after I'd lost about 30 pounds, my sister
very kindly told me that she was thrilled I was losing weight, because the last time she'd seen me
I had an [censored] like the rear end of a truck. I was happy she'd kept that comment to herself until
after I'd been doing well with the weight loss. She recently apologised for saying it though.

Hang in there Amber, soon enough you'll have people showering you with compliments.

Thanks!

Brenda Hammond said:

What's important is how you feel about your hair cut and I'm sure you are happy with it or you
wouldn't have had it done. I bet it looks great!!!

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Quoted message said:

I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in class
today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my chin. I
asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the same double
chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this really hurt.
Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to succeed at WW now
because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person. Shouldn't your friends
accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying stuff about how I don't
need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be helpful about how I should
loose weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone
else have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber
214/208/165

I've had several people tell me eating before bedtime causes you to "retain" weight! I just ignore
them--I'm losing doing what I'm doing so I'm going to continue until it no longer works!!!

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Janice
263/257/150 (maybe 130)

"Joyce" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...

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Ya know, I love some of the ignorant comments that come out of peoples

mouths. <g>

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Calories are calories, regardless as to the time of day you eat them. The

body

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only needs a certain amount of calories to run efficiently ... eat more

than that

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amount and the end result is obvious. BUT those calories can be consumed

early in

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the day with the same results. I wonder what your friend would say if

they knew I

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had successfully lost 98 pounds while still eating before bedtime. <g>

Joyce current weight: 130; total loss 98.8 lbs Lifetime: 4/4/03

On Fri, 21 Nov 2003 04:53:16 GMT, "Janice Kennish" <[email hidden]>

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Amber,

I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't have friends or family who

are

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like this and you shouldn't have to go through it. The worst thing I've

had

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happen is a friend talking to me about eating things before bed and how maybe if I gave that up
I'd lose weight better. As I explained to her I shouldn't have to give up what every skinny
people do if I'm doing it

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reason. Since then she hasn't said anything and has been supportive. Unfortunately I don't have
any advice on how to handle this but would

love

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to offer support for you to vent!!!!

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Janice
263/257/150 (maybe 130)

"Amber" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...

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I recently cut my hair. It used to be pretty long, and now it is above my collar. I was in
class today when my friend wrote me a note saying that I should have the front pieces below my
chin. I asked why? and she pointed to her chin. She's also a little over weight and has the
same double chin problem as me. I understand she may have been trying to be helpful, but this
really hurt. Like hair can cover that up anyways. I guess I feel a little more motivated to
succeed at WW now because of that, but it still makes me feel like a fat, ugly, person.
Shouldn't your friends accept you for who you are? My mom is also heavy and she's always saying
stuff about how I don't need another cookie or this and that at get togethers, and trying to be
helpful about how I should

loose

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weight. I'm tired of people doing this. Friends and family shouldn't do this. Does anyone else
have a similar experience? Feelings?

Amber

Joyce said:

Ya know, I love some of the ignorant comments that come out of peoples mouths. <g> Calories are
calories, regardless as to the time of day you eat them. The body only needs a certain amount of
calories to run efficiently ... eat more than that amount and the end result is obvious. BUT those
calories can be consumed early in the day with the same results. I wonder what your friend would
say if they knew I had successfully lost 98 pounds while still eating before bedtime. <g>

When I first joined the gym I'd lost about 50 pounds, all the while eating heaps of carbs and having
after dinner snacks. The trainer that got assigned to me insisted on telling me that if I wanted to
lose weight I couldn't eat any carbs after lunch time and that I couldn't eat after 7pm. Uh, yeah,
whatever. Even so called professionals often don't really know what they're on about.

--
Erin in NZ
125/88.5/75 kgs
125.88/5.1/165 lbs

NYNY goal 180.6lbs (82 kilos)

"It is not the mountain we conquer, it is ourselves" Sir Edmund Hilary