Please, spare me the armchair psychology. Saddle sores and discomfort are a normal part of cycling, regardless of how "tough" you are. It's not about being coddled, it's about being smart and taking care of your body. You think the pros don't use padded shorts and ergonomic saddles? They're not just for show, they're for comfort and performance. And let's not even get started on the idea that mental toughness can overcome basic human physiology. Newsflash: our bodies have limits, and ignoring those limits can lead to serious injury. So, no, I don't think the cycling community is somehow flawed because we prioritize comfort and safety. 
