I've never understood it, but there are many people in the world who seem to think that by making
others look bad, it makes themselves look better. In reality it doesn't, but they do have themselves
fooled into believing it. It is a shame. I'm glad your daughters see things the way they really are
- they know you so much better!
Joyce
Deb in Northern California said:My mom is so jealous of the relationship I have with my girls, she tries to undermine it and tell
them some nasty things about me when I am not around, either via email or when they see her and I
am not there. They have gotten to the point that they tell her that if I am mentioned when they
are visiting with her, they will just leave as they know that the things she says are not the
truth about their mom, they know me better than she does. Needless to say, mom and I don't get
along great.Debbie
"Joyce" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...
Quoted message said:When my mom was more lucid, she would tell me she was envious of my
relationshipQuoted message said:with my children. I don't know why we are closer, other than maybe my
kids justQuoted message said:don't fear me? They know there isn't anything bad enough that they can't
talkQuoted message said:about. We *try* to avoid screaming matches, I grew up with them and
learned thatQuoted message said:they don't solve a danged thing. There are other times though, that I
sometimesQuoted message said:wish we weren't so close. I feel every dang one of their pains worse than
theyQuoted message said:do. <sigh>
Joyce
Prairie Roots said:We must have gone to the same school of childrearing together. Sometimes you hear things you'd
rather not know, but I have a great relationship with both of my daughters. My mother is quite
envious of the closeness I share with them.Prairie Roots
On Mon, 9 Feb 2004 18:54:49 -0800, "Deb in Northern California"
<[email hidden]> wrote:>I agree with you completely and do the same thing with my kids. My
oldestQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>(will be in 20 in a week) is away at college like your son is. She was
soQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>funny last year, she called me and asked if it was okay if she had a
drinkQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>with her roommate at school. I told her it was not my decision and she
knewQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>the consequences if she got caught drinking in her dorm room. I told
herQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>just don't drive and don't get in the car with anyone. She ended up
havingQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>one beer and regretted it, apparently she is like me and lacks the
enzyme toQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>metabolize the alcohol and ended up in bed all weekend feeling lousy. I think she has had only
>one drink since then and it did not effect her
thatQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>way.
>
>I am a firm believer of giving the kids enough rope to get out, but not enough to hang
>themselves. And to never condemn them for being open and honest with me. If course the oldest
>is very open with me and has told
meQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>things, I don't think a mom should really know about her teenage
daughtersQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>private behind closed door life, if you know what I mean.
>
>Debbie "Joyce" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
>"]news:[email hidden]...
>> I'm the same way with my kids Debbie. The logic I use is if I forbid
>something,
>> all they are going to do is do it anyway and lie to me. I'd much
ratherQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>at least
>> know that the line of communication is still open and at least know
whenQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>they are
>> doing something I don't totally agree with (yet is somewhat normal
>behavior). The
>> first thing I told each child when they hit that precarious age is: I
>don't
>> condone the behavior and it is illegal. BUT if you ever find yourself
inQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>the
>> situation where you DO have a drink, do not ever get in a car ...
>regardless as to
>> whether you are driving or someone else. Call home. No questions
asked,Quoted message said:Quoted message said:>no
>> repercussions, no discussion, no lecture. This is a freebie. I would
>much rather
>> get a phone call to come rescue you, than one from the police or
morgue.Quoted message said:Quoted message said:>So far
>> it has appeared to work. My son has always called to tell me he is
>staying
>> whereever he is at - keys have been put away safely, and will be
returnedQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>in the
>> am. My daughter did taste the mudslide the other night - once she
knewQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>she was
>> not leaving the house.
>>
>> I still do draw the line at allowing only my kids trying things
though.Quoted message said:Quoted message said:>My son is
>> 19, has had friends over and asked if they could have a beer. Nope,
notQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>unless
>> parents are called and have given permission - and they are turning
keysQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>over to
>> me. I do not and will not take authority away from another parent -
evenQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>if I do
>> know what their kids do when away from home.
>>
>> Joyce
>>
>> On Sun, 8 Feb 2004 14:57:03 -0800, "Deb in Northern California"
>> <[email hidden]> wrote:
>>
>> >I but the individual serving bottles in the 4 pack, and the kids try
toQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>get
>> >to those too. I don't buy them very often unless we are going to a
partyQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>or
>> >having friends over to drink. My kids love my mudslides and beg for
meQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>to
>> >make them.
>> >
>> >Yes I will admit, I am a parent that lets my kids have a taste of
>something,
>> >they don't have a full drink, but I will not keep it from them, to
onlyQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>have
>> >them sneak around behind my back to get drunk.
>> >
>> >Debbie
>> >
>> >"Joyce" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...
>> >> mmmmmmmmmmm, but oh so luverly! I go the cheap and easy route, no
>muss,
>> >no fuss
>> >> ... buy the premixed stuff in a bottle and pour it over ice. So
muchQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>> >smoother
>> >> than kahlua straight up (which I haven't had in years, but used to
>adore).
>> >> Biggest problem now is figuring out how to keep the kids out of it,
>other
>> >than by
>> >> me downing the whole dang bottle - which is looking like a fun
option.Quoted message said:Quoted message said:><G>
>> >>
>> >> I believe the version I have is rum based, probably cream and maybe
>some
>> >chocolate
>> >> syrup also? The bottle description says *a creamy blend of
chocolateQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>and
>> >coffee
>> >> flavors, combined with rum* - no ingredient list other than
non-dairyQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>> >creamer and
>> >> 10% alcohol. LOL! It's REALLY good if you put it in a blender
withQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>> >icecubes and
>> >> crush it up. hehehe - better put the bottle back in the fridge
beforeQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>hub
>> >gets
>> >> home and fears I've been nipping for breakfast. <EG>
>> >>
>> >> Joyce
>> >>
>> >> On Sun, 08 Feb 2004 16:42:55 GMT, "Lesanne" <[email hidden]>
>wrote:
>> >>
>> >> >It is a drink, with irish creme, kahlua, and sometimes other stuff
>like
>> >> >chocolate syrup in one recipe I saw, vodka in another....
>> >> >
>> >> >Evil
>> >> >
>> >> >"Fred" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
>> >> >"]news:[email hidden]...
>> >> >> I don't even know what an "edible" one is!!!
>> >> >>
>> >> >> On Sun, 08 Feb 2004 14:11:29 GMT, "frood" <[email hidden]> wrote:
>> >> >>
>> >> >> >That depends on whether you are drinking it, or trying to
out-runQuoted message said:Quoted message said:>it.
>> >;-)
>> >> >>
>> >> >
>> >>
>> >
>>
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