Need some advice (long)

Yes, I experienced this in the early months of my diet. there were several
reasons for this:
I had been over weight for decades so any weight loss looked good at first,
but when i approached the weight i had in college (my target) the weight
loss appeared extreme to my family. After a year of getting used to my
appearance (http://home.triad.rr.com/bmorrell/weightlossface.pps) they have
adjusted.
The nature of the diet certainly will give your loved ones pause, this is
inevitable and justifiable . But results trump concern, my weight bp and
cholesterol are down, and so are the concerns of my family

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner
with
my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the
beginning,
they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready to
leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks and
a
quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms
around
me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight. Mom
echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me how
great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T
look
that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup of
dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb
stuff
on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie because
it
was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad may
equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they feel
I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to keep
track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.) I
have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk on
the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so
excited
to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories to
an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to reach
my
original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

sorry, accidentally sent before finishing:
Yes, I experienced this in the early months of my diet. there were several
reasons for this:
I had been over weight for decades so any weight loss looked good at first,
but when i approached the weight i had in college (my target) the weight
loss appeared extreme to my family. After a year of getting used to my
appearance (http://home.triad.rr.com/bmorrell/weightlossface.pps) they have
adjusted.
The nature of the diet certainly will give your loved ones pause, this is
inevitable and justifiable it is new and controversial. But results trump
concern, my weight bp and
cholesterol are down, and so are the concerns of my family.
I too have been censured for obsession with fitday, though i use it mainly
to track weight and exercise. But my attitude is whatever it takes to stay
focused is what i need to do. Others are either thin naturally and do not
understand what is like to struggle, or are overweight and have not
confronted it themselves.
I do not think family members consciously try to keep you from losing weight
because they themselves are overweight, but i think that only those who have
struggled to lose weight will understand. Every single person I have talked
to who has lost weight understands, sympathizes and encourages without
reservation, even those who use different approaches.

Stick with it.

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner
with
my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the
beginning,
they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready to
leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks and
a
quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms
around
me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight. Mom
echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me how
great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T
look
that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup of
dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb
stuff
on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie because
it
was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad may
equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they feel
I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to keep
track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.) I
have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk on
the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so
excited
to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories to
an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to reach
my
original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

I think you got it right in suggesting that lost weight can be thought of as
a symptom of illness. They may even think that LC is bad for you.

It concerns me, that you are not monitoring carbs.

I recently saw the movie "The Machinist." It shows the results of losing
too much weight. At 186, you are not in that danger.

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner

with

Quoted message said:

my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the

beginning,

Quoted message said:

they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready to
leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks and

a

Quoted message said:

quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms

around

Quoted message said:

me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight. Mom
echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me how
great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T

look

Quoted message said:

that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup of
dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb

stuff

Quoted message said:

on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie because

it

Quoted message said:

was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad may
equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they feel
I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to keep
track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.) I
have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk on
the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so

excited

Quoted message said:

to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories to
an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to reach

my

Quoted message said:

original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

At 186, you're not that thin yet. It probably just looks like you've lost a
lot to your parents when compared to where you started. They most likely
mean well, but you have to decide whether you have the will to break with
the past. And yes, when I get down to lower bodyfat percentages, I get
comments. I just chalk them up to lack of education.

--

Eat less, exercise more. -- MFW

--
"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner
with
my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the
beginning,
they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready to
leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks and
a
quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms
around
me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight. Mom
echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me how
great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T
look
that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup of
dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb
stuff
on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie because
it
was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad may
equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they feel
I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to keep
track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.) I
have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk on
the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so
excited
to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories to
an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to reach
my
original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

Thanks for your thoughts, Cubit. I am still monitoring my carbs, but I'm
introducing whole grains and fruit back into my diet, and I'm gradually
switching to counting calories. My carbs are now between 50-70 daily, as an
average.

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/185/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"Cubit" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

I think you got it right in suggesting that lost weight can be thought of

as

Quoted message said:

a symptom of illness. They may even think that LC is bad for you.

It concerns me, that you are not monitoring carbs.

I recently saw the movie "The Machinist." It shows the results of losing
too much weight. At 186, you are not in that danger.

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner

with

Quoted message said:

my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the

beginning,

Quoted message said:

they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready

to

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks

and

Quoted message said:

a

Quoted message said:

quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms

around

Quoted message said:

me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight.

Mom

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me

how

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T

look

Quoted message said:

that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup

of

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb

stuff

Quoted message said:

on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie

because

Quoted message said:

it

Quoted message said:

was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad

may

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they

feel

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to

keep

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.)

I

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk

on

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so

excited

Quoted message said:

to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories

to

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to

reach

Quoted message said:

my

Quoted message said:

original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

I don't understand why you don't just ASK your parents why they think you
should stop. Then you can openly discuss their fears.

[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner

with

Quoted message said:

my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the

beginning,

Quoted message said:

they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready to
leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks and

a

Quoted message said:

quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms

around

Quoted message said:

me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight. Mom
echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me how
great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T

look

Quoted message said:

that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup of
dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb

stuff

Quoted message said:

on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie because

it

Quoted message said:

was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad may
equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they feel
I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to keep
track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.) I
have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk on
the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so

excited

Quoted message said:

to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories to
an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to reach

my

Quoted message said:

original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

Thanks, bob. Your advice really helped me feel better. And you hit the
nail on the head when you said that 'whatever it takes to stay focused.'
I'm looking at changing my attitude and way of approaching food, and it will
last me the rest of my life. I will always have to closely monitor my
calories (and to keep watch on carbs, to a lesser extent).

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"bob" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

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sorry, accidentally sent before finishing:
Yes, I experienced this in the early months of my diet. there were several
reasons for this:
I had been over weight for decades so any weight loss looked good at

first,

Quoted message said:

but when i approached the weight i had in college (my target) the weight
loss appeared extreme to my family. After a year of getting used to my
appearance (http://home.triad.rr.com/bmorrell/weightlossface.pps) they

have

Quoted message said:

adjusted.
The nature of the diet certainly will give your loved ones pause, this is
inevitable and justifiable it is new and controversial. But results trump
concern, my weight bp and
cholesterol are down, and so are the concerns of my family.
I too have been censured for obsession with fitday, though i use it mainly
to track weight and exercise. But my attitude is whatever it takes to stay
focused is what i need to do. Others are either thin naturally and do not
understand what is like to struggle, or are overweight and have not
confronted it themselves.
I do not think family members consciously try to keep you from losing

weight

Quoted message said:

because they themselves are overweight, but i think that only those who

have

Quoted message said:

struggled to lose weight will understand. Every single person I have

talked

Quoted message said:

to who has lost weight understands, sympathizes and encourages without
reservation, even those who use different approaches.

Stick with it.

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner
with
my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the
beginning,
they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready

to

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks

and

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

a
quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms
around
me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight.

Mom

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me

how

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T
look
that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup

of

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb
stuff
on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie

because

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

it
was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad

may

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they

feel

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to

keep

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.)

I

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk

on

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so
excited
to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories

to

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to

reach

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

my
original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

Thanks, JC. Although I am not 'thin' now, I'm at the lowest weight than I
ever remember being as an adult. I even weigh less than I did when I
graduated from high school (190). Consequently, they would have trouble
seeing me healthy this 'small.' It's no wonder, then, that they are
concerned about me.

But it's my life, my health, and I'm 'staying the course.'

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"JC Der Koenig" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

At 186, you're not that thin yet. It probably just looks like you've lost

a

Quoted message said:

lot to your parents when compared to where you started. They most likely
mean well, but you have to decide whether you have the will to break with
the past. And yes, when I get down to lower bodyfat percentages, I get
comments. I just chalk them up to lack of education.

--

Eat less, exercise more. -- MFW

--
"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner
with
my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the
beginning,
they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready

to

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks

and

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

a
quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms
around
me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight.

Mom

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me

how

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T
look
that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup

of

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb
stuff
on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie

because

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

it
was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad

may

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they

feel

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to

keep

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.)

I

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk

on

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so
excited
to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories

to

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to

reach

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

my
original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

Well, like I said, we were literally on our way out the door, and it's not a
subject that I wanted to broach in front of ALL of my relatives. Everyone
else was VERY supportive of my success.

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"Deb" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

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I don't understand why you don't just ASK your parents why they think you
should stop. Then you can openly discuss their fears.

[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner

with

Quoted message said:

my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the

beginning,

Quoted message said:

they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready

to

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks

and

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a

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quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms

around

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me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight.

Mom

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echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me

how

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great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T

look

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that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup

of

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dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb

stuff

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on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie

because

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it

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was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad

may

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equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they

feel

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I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to

keep

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track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.)

I

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have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk

on

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the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so

excited

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to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories

to

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an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to

reach

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my

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original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

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Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner
with
my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the
beginning,
they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready to
leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks and
a
quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms
around
me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight. Mom
echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me how
great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T
look
that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup of
dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb
stuff
on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie because
it
was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad may
equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they feel
I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to keep
track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.) I
have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk on
the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so
excited
to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories to
an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to reach
my
original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160

You know, I don't know if I'm thin or not. I feel like a fat guy losing
weight, not a thin guy or anything. People tell me that I'm wasting away,
and stuff, and I don't even have a good mirror to see what is going on, and
I have changed pants size twice in the last few months, but I just don't
really get into it.

I know well that our brains don't catch up to our bodies. We can be thin
and delicious, but we don't get there in our minds as soon as our bodies get
there. We are going to think of ourselves as fat people. It takes a long
time to get over that.

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote

Quoted message said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner
with
my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and family
about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the
beginning,
they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting ready to
leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks and
a
quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms
around
me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight. Mom
echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me how
great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T
look
that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup of
dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb
stuff
on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie because
it
was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at dinner!)

DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight since
becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad may
equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they feel
I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to keep
track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an obsession.) I
have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk on
the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so
excited
to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my calories to
an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to reach
my
original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

I've experienced the same thing from several people, mostly family. One
female relative has accused me face to face of changing my personality after
a 58 pound weight loss. That's probably true🙂 I walk with my head up, laugh
out loud more often and generally am having a great time, self confidant. I
really didn't feel good about myself when I was fat. The other day a
saleslady steered me away from a sweater I liked because it was a plus size.
Ain't life grand? Oh, I also have a formerly slim sister that acts a little
colder towards me and a skinny sister that acts like nothing happened. As
far as what people are motivated by, my hubby thinks it's a lot of jealousy.
Love that man! BTW, mom thinks I look like I'm not feeling well. I think she
was just used to me being chubby. FTR, she has always been thin and has had
2 by pass surgeries (8 arteries!).

Nancy J
from a size 22 to a 12

Thanks, Ig. I've decided that I'm doing this for my health, so I'm not
letting anything stop me.

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"Ignoramus19295" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Same from my diabetic MIL. You have quite a bit to lose still, to be
anywhere close to a danger zone, so I would not worry. You can tell
your dad that you are not trying to lose weight, and continue to lose.

--
223/172.8/180

Thanks, Nancy! I know that my attitude has changed since losing 100+
pounds! I've noticed more confidence in myself for starters. I also feel
much healthier on this woe, but it is hard to understand the mindset of my
diabetic parents even when I tell them that this woe will help stave off
diabetes. I'm NOT stopping!

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"Nancy J" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote

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I've experienced the same thing from several people, mostly family. One
female relative has accused me face to face of changing my personality

after

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a 58 pound weight loss. That's probably true🙂 I walk with my head up,

laugh

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out loud more often and generally am having a great time, self confidant.

I

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really didn't feel good about myself when I was fat. The other day a
saleslady steered me away from a sweater I liked because it was a plus

size.

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Ain't life grand? Oh, I also have a formerly slim sister that acts a

little

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colder towards me and a skinny sister that acts like nothing happened. As
far as what people are motivated by, my hubby thinks it's a lot of

jealousy.

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Love that man! BTW, mom thinks I look like I'm not feeling well. I think

she

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was just used to me being chubby. FTR, she has always been thin and has

had

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2 by pass surgeries (8 arteries!).

Nancy J
from a size 22 to a 12

I feel exactly the same way---like a fat woman who's losing weight! I know
that my body is smaller than it used to be, but I, too, have a hard time
seeing it. I've still got 'miles' to go, but I know that by following this
woe, I'm doing healthy stuff for my body. Thanks for your help!

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"Jim Bard" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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You know, I don't know if I'm thin or not. I feel like a fat guy losing
weight, not a thin guy or anything. People tell me that I'm wasting away,
and stuff, and I don't even have a good mirror to see what is going on,

and

Quoted message said:

I have changed pants size twice in the last few months, but I just don't
really get into it.

I know well that our brains don't catch up to our bodies. We can be thin
and delicious, but we don't get there in our minds as soon as our bodies

get

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there. We are going to think of ourselves as fat people. It takes a long
time to get over that.

Lady o' the house said:

Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner with
my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

I think that your husband could be correct in his take on the
situation. However, what I've seen happen in families when some
changes has more to do with the fear. Some people fear that if
the statis quo of their world changes it could mean they would
have to change in some way as well.

If you've played a certain "role" in the family, then by losing
weight and achieving better health it means you've somehow
changed and they have to view (or treat) you differently. They
may not what you to change because they will have to change how
they see/react to the new you.

I don't know your family or you, but I've seen families react in
very odd ways when a member makes a lifestyle change... even it
the change is a very positive one.

-
Rudy - Remove the Z from my address to respond.

"It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees!"
-Emiliano Zapata

Check out the a.s.d.l-c FAQ at:
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"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...
: Thanks, Nancy! I know that my attitude has changed since losing 100+
: pounds! I've noticed more confidence in myself for starters. I also feel
: much healthier on this woe, but it is hard to understand the mindset of my
: diabetic parents even when I tell them that this woe will help stave off
: diabetes. I'm NOT stopping!
:
: --
: Linda

My first thought after reading the initial post, was that perhaps your
parents are afraid you've gotten anorexia nervosa. But, you're not THAT
thin. Still, maybe this is on their mind....

Maybe you should reassure them you're not "fanatic" about this---simply
educated and determined.

Pat in TX

RRzVRR said:

I don't know your family or you, but I've seen families react in
very odd ways when a member makes a lifestyle change... even it
the change is a very positive one.

Yes, agree. It's part of what must be conquered.

Losing/maintaining weight, most often, has to be a "Me First" approach. Why
not? An unhealthy, shortened life doesn't equate to anything except a lack
of personal responsibility.

Parents do not have an objective view of their offspring.

In news:[email hidden],
Lady o' the house <[email hidden]> stated
| Thanks, Nancy! I know that my attitude has changed since losing 100+
| pounds! I've noticed more confidence in myself for starters. I also
| feel much healthier on this woe, but it is hard to understand the
| mindset of my diabetic parents even when I tell them that this woe
| will help stave off diabetes. I'm NOT stopping!
|
| --
| Linda
| LC since Oct. 13, 2003
| 296/186/160
| http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
| http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo
|

Calorie counting with calorie restriction works. However, IMHO, as your
carbs go up, maintaining a calorie restriction will become increasingly
difficult. Diets that try to be popular reject calorie counting, because it
is not marketable. Have you considered doing low carb AND restricting
calories at the same time?

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

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Thanks for your thoughts, Cubit. I am still monitoring my carbs, but I'm
introducing whole grains and fruit back into my diet, and I'm gradually
switching to counting calories. My carbs are now between 50-70 daily, as

an

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average.

--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/185/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)

"Cubit" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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I think you got it right in suggesting that lost weight can be thought

of

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as

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a symptom of illness. They may even think that LC is bad for you.

It concerns me, that you are not monitoring carbs.

I recently saw the movie "The Machinist." It shows the results of

losing

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too much weight. At 186, you are not in that danger.

"Lady o' the house" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
news:[email hidden]...

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Something's been bugging me since coming back from Thanksgiving dinner

with

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my family, and I'm not sure how to handle it.

Up until this time, I've gotten so much support from friends and

family

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about my woe. While some friends voiced their skepticism in the

beginning,

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they now see proof that low carb has really been good for me.

So, at Thanksgiving at my brother and sil's home, we were getting read

y

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to

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leave and my dad, who BTW suffers from heart disease (2 heart attacks

and

Quoted message said:

a

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quadruple bypass) and is an insulin-dependent diabetic, put his arms

around

Quoted message said:

me, looked me in the eye, and said that I should stop losing weight.

Mom

Quoted message said:

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echoed his remark. I was so taken aback! Everyone else there told me

how

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

great I looked, but I get the impression that my parents think I DON'T

look

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that good. (At dinner that night, I did allow myself about a half cup

of

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

dressing, some sweet potato, along with turkey and the other low carb

stuff

Quoted message said:

on the buffet, and a couple of bites of pie---didn't like the pie

because

Quoted message said:

it

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was TOO sweet! So noone can say that I was being obsessive at

dinner!)

Quoted message said:

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DH tried to explain it to me that my dad has lost a lot of weight

since

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becoming diabetic and suffering from heart disease. He said that Dad

may

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

equate weight loss with poor health. DH also offered that maybe they

feel

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

I'm becoming obsessed with it (I do use Fitday pretty religiously to

keep

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

track of what I've eaten, but I don't feel that makes it an

obsession.)

Quoted message said:

I

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have been sharing my weight loss progress with my parents when we talk

on

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the phone, but that's only because after years of being obese I'm so

excited

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to see results and to feel better.

So, lately I'm not watching carbs so much, but I am keeping my

calories

Quoted message said:

to

Quoted message said:

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an average of between 1200 and 1300. I guess that I'll keep this up,
privately, and not mention anything more about it. I still want to

reach

Quoted message said:

my

Quoted message said:

original goal of 160. Has anyone else experienced anything like

this?

Quoted message said:

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--
Linda
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
296/186/160
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
http://community.webshots.com/user/mslewtoo

"Are you telling me there are dead people in my living room watching
videos?"--Nina (Truly, Madly, Deeply)