Diane Ball said:The success stories keep me from quitting. My daughter left for college on
Aug 17th. I've been up there a few times and I've been on my cruise
vacation. Now I am home for awhile (it's just me). I've been very lonely.
I have never in my entire life lived alone. I don't have any family here to
do things with. It is just way too quiet here at night.
Welcome to the world of being alone.
Tell me, what are your interests?
What things have you considered being interested in before, but were
just too busy to get involved?
I had a friend who only loved books. When his wife died, his kids
skedaddled on their own ways.
He only loved books. Guess why his kids skedaddled on their own ways.
I asked him one day what things he thought were beautiful.
He didn't know of any, maybe only books. But not the books aren't a
comfort to him.
I eventually got him started on the "Laughter is the best medicine" cure
(Norman Cousins) and he was getting DVD and Video of comedies.
Sad to say that he lived such a narrow life. Both he and his former wife
lived behind a wall keeping the world out of their home.
So, the questions I asked about interesting thingns weren't trivial.
What is beautiful to you? What is funny to your? What is joyful to you?
What gives you contentment?
Looking for a buddy is helpful. It is great if you can become your own
best buddy and then add more buddies as you find them.
But it can be tough to first be alone.
Jim