April 22, 2002, Earth Day
Letter to an Activist
by Tooker Gomberg
Dear Activist:
It's another strange day for me. Things have been strange for 8 months or more.
I used to be an activist. Now I don't know what I am. Did you ever read the
Kafka story about the guy who wakes up and he has turned into a cockroach?
My mind is in a fog - I can't think very clearly. Making a sandwich takes a long
time - I have to concentrate on every step along the way, and I am moving very
slowly and deliberately. I feel like I am stunned, and spaced out most of the
time. Today is Earth Day, but I feel I am on another planet.
I have been spending lots of time in bed, mostly sleeping, dozing, and dreaming.
It feels like my mind has melted down, though I am told that it comes back once
the depression lifts. Whenever that is. For some people it seems to be months,
for others years, and others never get out of it.
But I am writing to you about activism, not the frightening impacts of
depression.
Amory Lovins, the great energy efficiency guru, once called me a Hyper-Activist.
I guess that's what I was. I lived, breathed, and focussed on activism. It kept
me thinking, inspired, interested, and alive.
But it also allowed me to ignore other things in life that now, suddenly, I
realize I never developed. This makes me sad and despondent.
I used to enjoy cooking, but stopped. I always liked kids, but never really
thought about having kids of our own. Changing the world was more important, and
having a kid would interfere with our life's work of changing the world.
I didn't develop my mind in a broad way, learning about music and art and
theatre and poetry, for example. It was focussed on changing the world. I never
really thought about a career - I was living my life, not worrying about the
trappings and credentials of the boring, status quo world.
Maybe I was living in a bubble of naiveté, doing my own thing, unconcerned that
my perspectives and actions were so different from "normal". I never wanted to
be normal anyways. Normal got us into the mess we're in.
So now I find myself, with my sliver of being smashed to smithereens after being
assaulted by police in Quebec City, a security guard in City Hall, and various
other security guards during the mayoralty race. And numerous arrests.
Or maybe it was the tear gas, and last summer's smog. Maybe I pushed my brain
too hard, and overstressed it with the run for Mayor of Toronto, or the passport
burning, or 20 years of pushing against the juggernaut. And maybe Sept. 11
firmed up my worries into a real fear that working for change was really
dangerous.
Or it could be a physiological response to too much coffee, stress, and smog.
Maybe I've burned out my adrenal glands. Maybe my brain is poisoned from so much
thinking about tragic ecological issues, pondering bad air, and getting
frustrated at the slow rate of improvement and the rapid destruction of the
living world. Could my brain have been damaged when I was close to dying with
heat stroke in Vietnam in 1998?
I should have developed a deeper kinship with my family and with people. Don't
get me wrong - I had lots of friends and acquaintances in the activist world.
But they were not deep friends of the heart. I neglected my heart, and how I was
feeling about things, about people, about situations. Now that I'm in crisis I
don't really have the language to connect with people. The silence is easier
than trying to explain what I'm going through, or to relate to other people's
issues or problems.
So what advice can I offer? Stay rounded. Do the activism, but don't overdo it.
If you burn out, or tumble into depression, you'll become no good to anyone,
especially yourself. When you're in this state, nothing seems worthwhile, and
there's nothing to look forward to.
It's honourable to work to change the world, but do it in balance with other
things. Explore and embrace the things you love to do, and you'll be energetic
and enthusiastic about the activism. Don't drop hobbies or enjoyments. Be sure
to hike and dance and sing. Keeping your spirit alive and healthy is fundamental
if you are to keep going.
I never really understood what burnout was. I knew that it affected active
people, but somehow I thought I was immune to it. After all, I took breaks every
now and then and went travelling. And all my work was done in partnership with
Ange, the great love of my life.
But in the end, when burnout finally caught up to me, it was mega, and must have
been the accumulation of decades of stress and avoidance. And now I find myself
in a dark and confusing labyrinth trying to feel my way back to sanity and calm.
So beware. Take this warning seriously. If you start slipping into the hole of
depression and you notice yourself losing enthusiasm and becoming deeply
disenchanted, take a break and talk with a friend about it. Don't ignore it. The
world needs all the concerned people it can get. If you can stay in the struggle
for the long haul you can make a real positive contribution, and live to witness
the next victory!
Related links & resources:
Tooker & Angela's website, eulogies, events, more...
http://www.greenspiration.org
Activist Support Forum / Discussion
http://www.planetfriendly.net/forum/viewforum.php?f=21
Burnout, Stress, Depression - links & resources
http://www.planetfriendly.net/health.html#stress
http://www.dmoz.org/Society/Work/Job_Burnout/
http://www.dmoz.org/Health/Mental_Health/Disorders/Mood/Depression/
Do Not Burn Yourself Out, by Edward Abbey
http://www.abbeyweb.net/quotes.htx?query=paragraph&op=search
Creating Stronger Community - Discussion & Links
http://www.planetfriendly.net/forum/viewforum.php?f=18
Ten Commandments For Changing The World
http://www.greenspiration.org/Article/TenCommandments.html
How To Be An Activist
http://www.sierraclub.ca/national/activist.html
Preparing for a Campaign
http://www.stopcancer.org/action/organize.html
Activism Resources & Strategies
http://www.dmoz.org/Society/Activism/
Citizen's Handbook
http://www.vcn.bc.ca/citizens-handbook/
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humans ("pure habitat"😉. Want to help? (I spent the previous 8
years fighting auto dependence and road construction.)