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  1. "TM" <[email hidden]> a écrit dans le message de news:
    [email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:


    "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...
    Why is your sister claiming frozen dinners and tree limbs?


    Her house was in a hurricane. Her trees came down and smashed her roof. and
    are strewn across the yard, garage, car, etc. The electricity went out and
    caused the spoilage of many hundreds of dollars of food. And she purchased
    insurance against storm/wind/flood damage which cover those things. Then
    when it's time for the company to pay up, they make her go through hoops to
    get the money. You don't think that the tree removal service doesn't have
    enough to do without individually itemizing each limb that came down and
    waiting for it to be approved? And then she's gonna have to argue with them
    literally limb from limb to get them to pay. You call that good faith?

    Quoted message said:
    Quoted message said:

    Take a look at ADP biased reports used by many insurance companies to
    reduce MedPay claims.

    Take a look at all the times insurance companies have forced insured to
    sue in order to get their benefits due. And how many times it ends with
    the insured receiving less than the owed amount because it would just be
    too expensive or drawn out to bring the case through the court system.

    Well again, I could just say the opposite and it would mean as much.

    No it wouldn't. In addition to the anecdotal evidence there are surveys and
    reports and studies that show this. For instance, look at the non-profit
    http://www.badfaithinsurance.org/ . Then go ahead and show me evidence that
    supports the opposite view.

    Quoted message said:
    Quoted message said:

    We're not talking insurance companies refusing to pay because a customer
    has filed a fraudulant claim, but because it makes business sense not to
    pay.

    Well, we are talking armstrong and we are talking about fraud.

    This is RBR. I'm shocked to see that this thread has strayed to something
    not directly related to cycling 🙂

    Quoted message said:

    And why we're talking about armstrong and court, perhaps you could explain
    to me why he hasn't sued L'Equipe like he has every other paper that
    accussed him of drug use?


    What other papers has he sued for accusing him of drug use???

  2. "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    What other papers has he sued for accusing him of drug use???

    Not many have your sense of humor!

  3. TM said:

    "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    The fact that CSA doesn't want to pay out shouldn't come as a shock to
    anyone. That's pretty much SOP. Insurance companies are happy to take your
    money, but put up as many hoops as possible for you to jump through when
    it comes to trying to claim any of it.

    Insurance companies pay claims on a regular basis and only go to the trouble
    of contesting claims when they suspect that have a better than 50-50 shot of
    proving fraud.

    snip

    I'm with trg on this one. Very often I've seen very straightforward
    claims delayed, delayed, delayed. It may well be simple incompetence,
    but I'm cynical enough (and experienced enough) to know that if the
    insurance companies make it difficult enough, a certain number of people
    will not persist to see that legitimate claims are paid. This is sure
    for medical claims, and for sure it's true for any type of liability
    insurance.

    Steve

    --
    Mark & Steven Bornfeld DDS
    http://www.dentaltwins.com
    Brooklyn, NY
    718-258-5001

  4. Dans le message de
    news:[email hidden],
    B. Lafferty <[email hidden]> a réfléchi, et puis a déclaré :

    Quoted message said:

    "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    "B. Lafferty" <[email hidden]> a écrit dans le message de news:
    [email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:


    "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...
    > "B. Lafferty" <[email hidden]> a écrit dans le message de news:
    > [email hidden]...
    >>
    >> "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    >> news:[email hidden]...
    >>>
    >>> <[email hidden]> a écrit dans le message de news:
    >>> [email hidden]...
    >>>> Yes he does...He'll have to give his (insured) bonus money back
    >>>> after they sue him (and win). He'll lose spokesman/sponsorship
    >>>> duties that otherwise would have kept him in the dough for the
    >>>> next few years.
    >>>
    >>>
    >>> Not at all certain. As long as the relavent cycling bodies say
    >>> he won, it's complete conjecture today to say that he won't get
    >>> his bonus without knowing the terms of the contract and Texas
    >>> law. How does the contract define win? One could reasonably
    >>> assume that it relies on either ASO or the UCI. And with those
    >>> bodies in possession of all the information that CSA has, but
    >>> still declaring Armstrong the winner, AND no relavant doping
    >>> authority claiming Armstrong won because he doped, CSA will have
    >>> a hard time proving otherwise. The fact that CSA doesn't want to
    >>> pay out shouldn't come as a shock to anyone.
    >>
    >> SCA has already paid Armstrong $4.5 million, IIRC
    >> The legal issue is fraud in the inducment.
    >>
    >
    > From their side, from Armstrong's side it's the refusal to pay the
    > rest of the bonus. Might as well throw everything into the mix.
    >
    >>> That's pretty much SOP. Insurance companies are happy to take
    >>> your money, but put up as many hoops as possible for you to jump
    >>> through when it comes to trying to claim any of it. He'll only
    >>> lose spokesman/sponsorship duties if a lot of bad publicity
    >>> continues in the US. The best way for it to continue is if HE
    >>> and his lawyers keep raising a stink after the story has died.
    >>> That's why the important part of the press conference (which
    >>> Brian, with eyes wide shut, overlooks) isn't his lawyers are
    >>> blowing smoke about legal action (i.e. spinning the situation
    >>> for the US market), but his annoncement that he's definitively
    >>> retired. As he said, if he continued to ride, all this stuff
    >>> would still be out there. I wouldn't be surprised if CSA is pressing
    >>> their case not
    >>> because they expect to win, but because they hope to settle out
    >>> of court for a lower amount than the full sum (also SOP) with an
    >>> Armstrong willing to accept less money in order to make the bad
    >>> publicity go away (and stop paying for his lawyers' new yatchs).
    >>> Anything Armstrong plans to do in the future (Cancer fight,
    >>> politics, tv personality, ...) depends on his image in the US.
    >>> That's where he's the most vulnerable and that's the lens
    >>> through which these actions need to be regarded.
    >>
    > Heck if you are rufusing to pay the guy, you're might as well
    > through in the money you already paid out into the picture.

    If there's a determination that they don't have to pay this bonus
    due to fraud in the inducement dating prior to the contracts for
    the other bonuses, then they probably will go after that too. It
    isn't like Armstrong doesn't have the money to repay them.

    It's not like they don't have the money to pay Armstrong.

    Correct. The $5 million is in escrow.

    I left all this in to correct some misperceptions. The money is not
    necessarily in escrow, unless mandated by a court order, or posited in an
    interpleader action (I didn't read the pleadings). It is posted in the
    reserves against claims by the insurer(s) and reinsurers, as part of all
    litigation set-asides. That money, and all the money in reserves is
    regularly supervised by the financial authorities that have jurisdiction.
    You should take a little time to actually understand how things work, rather
    than to citing advocacy group sites. You could always inquire of the
    insurance commissioners. I don't know they read this newsgroup.

    The point, lost in all this, is that insurance is a contract, and upon the
    representations of the contracting parties, it is dealt with under the
    appropriate legislation. There are very few cases where liars win and the
    poor folk get screwed. If your lottery system (scusi !! - plaintiffs'
    advocates' forum) has a problem, it ain't with international insurance, it's
    with the liars and cheats. Frequently their own clients.

    Finally, a tiny point, so lost in the details - when a government commands
    action, which affects behaviour, then it is a typical insurance policy
    exclusion - force majeure - which relieves the obligation of payment. So
    the night in the hotel is excluded.

    The real stuff you (trg) seem to be missing is that cheating is not
    rewarded, usually, by capitulation to public relations guys. New Orleans is
    something a whole community (the world) gets involved in. Armstrong is
    something not too many people care about, really. Just here.

    Don't play amateur insurance genius, if you don't want to be shown up
    lacking.
    --
    Bonne route !

    Sandy
    Verneuil-sur-Seine FR

  5. "Mark & Steven Bornfeld" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:R2XWe.861$265.512@trndny07...

    Quoted message said:


    I'm with trg on this one. Very often I've seen very straightforward
    claims delayed, delayed, delayed. It may well be simple incompetence, but
    I'm cynical enough (and experienced enough) to know that if the insurance
    companies make it difficult enough, a certain number of people will not
    persist to see that legitimate claims are paid. This is sure for medical
    claims, and for sure it's true for any type of liability insurance.

    The difference is you have switched from talking about the armstrong case to
    talking about insurance in general. I'm sure you can find examples of an
    insurance company acting poorly just as you can find examples of cyclists
    doping.

    Just because one cyclist doped does not make armstrong guilty just as one
    insurance company acting wrongly does not make armstrong's insurance company
    guilty in this case.

    That's what was said, to me... the only reason armstrong is being sued by
    his insurance company is because all insurance companies are scum. If
    you're with him on that point then I hold a different opinion.

  6. "Sandy" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    Dans le message de
    news:[email hidden],
    B. Lafferty <[email hidden]> a réfléchi, et puis a déclaré :

    Quoted message said:

    "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    "B. Lafferty" <[email hidden]> a écrit dans le message de news:
    [email hidden]...
    >
    > "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    > news:[email hidden]...
    >> "B. Lafferty" <[email hidden]> a écrit dans le message de news:
    >> [email hidden]...
    >>>
    >>> "trg" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    >>> news:[email hidden]...
    >>>>
    >>>> <[email hidden]> a écrit dans le message de news:
    >>>> [email hidden]...
    >>>>> Yes he does...He'll have to give his (insured) bonus money back
    >>>>> after they sue him (and win). He'll lose spokesman/sponsorship
    >>>>> duties that otherwise would have kept him in the dough for the
    >>>>> next few years.
    >>>>
    >>>>
    >>>> Not at all certain. As long as the relavent cycling bodies say
    >>>> he won, it's complete conjecture today to say that he won't get
    >>>> his bonus without knowing the terms of the contract and Texas
    >>>> law. How does the contract define win? One could reasonably
    >>>> assume that it relies on either ASO or the UCI. And with those
    >>>> bodies in possession of all the information that CSA has, but
    >>>> still declaring Armstrong the winner, AND no relavant doping
    >>>> authority claiming Armstrong won because he doped, CSA will have
    >>>> a hard time proving otherwise. The fact that CSA doesn't want to
    >>>> pay out shouldn't come as a shock to anyone.
    >>>
    >>> SCA has already paid Armstrong $4.5 million, IIRC
    >>> The legal issue is fraud in the inducment.
    >>>
    >>
    >> From their side, from Armstrong's side it's the refusal to pay the
    >> rest of the bonus. Might as well throw everything into the mix.
    >>
    >>>> That's pretty much SOP. Insurance companies are happy to take
    >>>> your money, but put up as many hoops as possible for you to jump
    >>>> through when it comes to trying to claim any of it. He'll only
    >>>> lose spokesman/sponsorship duties if a lot of bad publicity
    >>>> continues in the US. The best way for it to continue is if HE
    >>>> and his lawyers keep raising a stink after the story has died.
    >>>> That's why the important part of the press conference (which
    >>>> Brian, with eyes wide shut, overlooks) isn't his lawyers are
    >>>> blowing smoke about legal action (i.e. spinning the situation
    >>>> for the US market), but his annoncement that he's definitively
    >>>> retired. As he said, if he continued to ride, all this stuff
    >>>> would still be out there. I wouldn't be surprised if CSA is pressing
    >>>> their case not
    >>>> because they expect to win, but because they hope to settle out
    >>>> of court for a lower amount than the full sum (also SOP) with an
    >>>> Armstrong willing to accept less money in order to make the bad
    >>>> publicity go away (and stop paying for his lawyers' new yatchs).
    >>>> Anything Armstrong plans to do in the future (Cancer fight,
    >>>> politics, tv personality, ...) depends on his image in the US.
    >>>> That's where he's the most vulnerable and that's the lens
    >>>> through which these actions need to be regarded.
    >>>
    >> Heck if you are rufusing to pay the guy, you're might as well
    >> through in the money you already paid out into the picture.
    >
    > If there's a determination that they don't have to pay this bonus
    > due to fraud in the inducement dating prior to the contracts for
    > the other bonuses, then they probably will go after that too. It
    > isn't like Armstrong doesn't have the money to repay them.

    It's not like they don't have the money to pay Armstrong.

    Correct. The $5 million is in escrow.

    I left all this in to correct some misperceptions. The money is not
    necessarily in escrow, unless mandated by a court order, or posited in an
    interpleader action (I didn't read the pleadings).

    My understanding, which could be incorrect, is that the money has benn
    placed in an escrow account of some sort independent of SCA to be paid when
    and if an arbitration award is confirmed by the court. Either way, the money
    is set aside and will be paid if that is the result of litigation.

    Quoted message said:

    It is posted in the reserves against claims by the insurer(s) and
    reinsurers, as part of all litigation set-asides. That money, and all the
    money in reserves is regularly supervised by the financial authorities
    that have jurisdiction. You should take a little time to actually
    understand how things work, rather than to citing advocacy group sites.
    You could always inquire of the insurance commissioners. I don't know
    they read this newsgroup.

    The point, lost in all this, is that insurance is a contract, and upon the
    representations of the contracting parties, it is dealt with under the
    appropriate legislation. There are very few cases where liars win and the
    poor folk get screwed. If your lottery system (scusi !! - plaintiffs'
    advocates' forum) has a problem, it ain't with international insurance,
    it's with the liars and cheats. Frequently their own clients.

    Finally, a tiny point, so lost in the details - when a government commands
    action, which affects behaviour, then it is a typical insurance policy
    exclusion - force majeure - which relieves the obligation of payment. So
    the night in the hotel is excluded.

    The real stuff you (trg) seem to be missing is that cheating is not
    rewarded, usually, by capitulation to public relations guys. New Orleans
    is something a whole community (the world) gets involved in. Armstrong is
    something not too many people care about, really. Just here.

    Don't play amateur insurance genius, if you don't want to be shown up
    lacking.
    --
    Bonne route !

    Sandy
    Verneuil-sur-Seine FR

  7. Perhaps you'd like to explain to everyone how Armstrong was so much
    faster in 2000 and on then in 1999 but that he needed EPO to win in
    1999?

    Oh, wait, you're going to tell us that a system so corrupt that they
    could test the B samples without permission and then somehow ferret out
    the code numbers and hand it all over to the media is trustworthy
    enough to believe they had a faultless security on the sample CONTENTS.

    I do find it interesting that Brian is a lawyer and somehow reveals why
    he can't remain employed so often. You'd think that someone with his
    training would be able to hide his extreme biases better than that.

  8. If you want to know how to sabotage this perfectly it's very easy. You
    only need to shoot yourself with EPO, wait a day, pee into a bottle and
    then put a single drop into each sample you want to test positive.
    There is essentially no way to detect such a method.

  9. You ought to really look at most of these cases. Insurance companies
    don't like to pay for treatments that cost millions and have the effect
    of lengthing a person's life by a month or a year. If you look at
    cancer treatments and outcomes now you have to realize that many people
    are living more than 5 years and then dying of the same sort of cancer
    that they were originally treated for. Because it's past 5 years they
    are declared "cured" and the reoccurence considered a "new" cancer.

    If you're going to live another 5 years it might well be worthwhile but
    it takes that long for the fear of the treatments to recede far enough
    back in your mind for the look of despair to leave your eyes.

    Perhaps HALF of all major medical expenses now go to treatments which
    scientifically are considered to be marginally effective.

    Now I agree that this isn't something that an insurance company should
    be deciding, but you certainly ought to think about that when they tell
    you that they can "treat" your advanced lung cancer "agressively". Ask
    pertinent questions like - what life extention can I expect to get from
    this treatment?

  10. "Tom Kunich" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    Perhaps you'd like to explain to everyone how Armstrong was so much
    faster in 2000 and on then in 1999 but that he needed EPO to win in
    1999?

    How do we know Lance didn't dope in 2000 too?

    JF

    --
    http://spaces.msn.com/members/flomblog/

  11. "Tom Kunich" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    Perhaps you'd like to explain to everyone how Armstrong was so much
    faster in 2000 and on then in 1999 but that he needed EPO to win in
    1999?

    .... that is, assuming he really did dope in 1999, which I am asserting for
    the sake of argument.

    JF

    --
    http://spaces.msn.com/members/flomblog/

  12. Jim Flom said:

    "Tom Kunich" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    Perhaps you'd like to explain to everyone how Armstrong was so much
    faster in 2000 and on then in 1999 but that he needed EPO to win in
    1999?

    ... that is, assuming he really did dope in 1999, which I am asserting for
    the sake of argument.

    JF

    --
    http://spaces.msn.com/members/flomblog/


    There you go being rational again! That's exactly the problem is that
    no matter what happens we are going to have nothing solid to go on.
    Reminds me a lot of the Robert Blake mess. It'd be pretty kind to call
    everyone involved with that one "questionable", and it seems to be the
    same here at this point.
    Bill C

  13. "Bill C" <[email hidden]> wrote...

    Quoted message said:


    There you go being rational again! That's exactly the problem is that
    no matter what happens we are going to have nothing solid to go on.
    Reminds me a lot of the Robert Blake mess. It'd be pretty kind to call
    everyone involved with that one "questionable", and it seems to be the
    same here at this point.

    Shame on me. I put Robert Blake in there with O.J. Lance IMHO is harder to
    pigeon-hole. Do I care much one way or another? Not really. It would be
    great if he won them all clean -- we all -- well, most of us -- want to
    believe we watched honest history in the making. If he doped, oh well.
    Tyler Hamilton I have a harder time believing doped, just based on personal
    experience. I read the dissenting opinion of the three-man arbitration
    panel and found it raised enough reasonable doubt about his guilt. I mean
    that not in any legal sense, just a practical sense. Then the other guy
    gets busted in Phonak and soon the doctor is history. Makes me wonder of
    the doctor screwed up without Hamilton's or the other rider's knowledge.
    Haven't heard much about that though, just mostly about fetal twins.

    JF

    --
    http://spaces.msn.com/members/flomblog/

  14. Jim Flom said:

    "Bill C" <[email hidden]> wrote...

    Quoted message said:

    There you go being rational again! That's exactly the problem is that
    no matter what happens we are going to have nothing solid to go on.
    Reminds me a lot of the Robert Blake mess. It'd be pretty kind to call
    everyone involved with that one "questionable", and it seems to be the
    same here at this point.

    Shame on me. I put Robert Blake in there with O.J. Lance IMHO is harder to
    pigeon-hole. Do I care much one way or another? Not really. It would be

    Lance is probably in the same pigeonhole as William Shatner...

  15. On 19 Sep 2005 06:47:35 -0700, "Tom Kunich" <[email hidden]>

    Quoted message said:

    If you look at
    cancer treatments and outcomes now you have to realize that many people
    are living more than 5 years and then dying of the same sort of cancer
    that they were originally treated for. Because it's past 5 years they
    are declared "cured" and the reoccurence considered a "new" cancer.

    If you're going to live another 5 years it might well be worthwhile but
    it takes that long for the fear of the treatments to recede far enough
    back in your mind for the look of despair to leave your eyes.

    its far more complicated than that. OTOH, every major insurance
    company has qualified nurses that review practically every major
    reimbursement case.

    The major issues are that some cancers are not being cured in any
    significantly better rate, but are simply discovered earlier -
    automatically extending the period a person survivies.

    Some cancers have a significantly improved real survival rate from
    just a decade ago.

    And some are pretty much a short term death sentence still. OTOH,
    those that will sign on for risky treatments may be that one pipeline
    that delivers a cure. My sister-in-law, herself a degreed medtech
    pretty much knew she had maybe a year to live and knew too well the
    results that she read several times a week, but she was willing to try
    a trial treatment, It didn't work. But it was a chance at the time.

    FWIW, I don't know many oncology nurses and doctors that declare
    people cured of cancer. Most need a gun at their heads before they
    will use much other than remission. They're happy with a ten year
    remission without any mention of a cure.

    And since I know about 30 or so cancer survivors personally and have
    met a few hundred, this idea that they are walking around like the
    living dead with some kind of haunted eye syndrome is a bit much. I'm
    guessing you're like the rest of us - you don't have a clue how many
    survivors walk past you every day, looking pretty normal and more
    worried about gas hitting $ 4.00 a gallon than going back into chemo
    treatments.

    Curtis L. Russell
    Odenton, MD (USA)
    Just someone on two wheels...

  16. "Curtis L. Russell" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
    news:[email hidden]...

    Quoted message said:

    On 19 Sep 2005 06:47:35 -0700, "Tom Kunich" <[email hidden]>

    Quoted message said:

    If you look at
    cancer treatments and outcomes now you have to realize that many people
    are living more than 5 years and then dying of the same sort of cancer
    that they were originally treated for. Because it's past 5 years they
    are declared "cured" and the reoccurence considered a "new" cancer.

    If you're going to live another 5 years it might well be worthwhile but
    it takes that long for the fear of the treatments to recede far enough
    back in your mind for the look of despair to leave your eyes.

    its far more complicated than that. OTOH, every major insurance
    company has qualified nurses that review practically every major
    reimbursement case.

    The major issues are that some cancers are not being cured in any
    significantly better rate, but are simply discovered earlier -
    automatically extending the period a person survivies.

    Some cancers have a significantly improved real survival rate from
    just a decade ago.

    And some are pretty much a short term death sentence still. OTOH,
    those that will sign on for risky treatments may be that one pipeline
    that delivers a cure. My sister-in-law, herself a degreed medtech
    pretty much knew she had maybe a year to live and knew too well the
    results that she read several times a week, but she was willing to try
    a trial treatment, It didn't work. But it was a chance at the time.

    FWIW, I don't know many oncology nurses and doctors that declare
    people cured of cancer. Most need a gun at their heads before they
    will use much other than remission. They're happy with a ten year
    remission without any mention of a cure.

    And since I know about 30 or so cancer survivors personally and have
    met a few hundred, this idea that they are walking around like the
    living dead with some kind of haunted eye syndrome is a bit much. I'm
    guessing you're like the rest of us - you don't have a clue how many
    survivors walk past you every day, looking pretty normal and more
    worried about gas hitting $ 4.00 a gallon than going back into chemo
    treatments.

    To tell you the truth Curt I don't know how you managed to get that out of
    my postings. I've known perhaps a couple of dozen cancer victims. I worked
    in the medical instrument business for some time and had to haunt
    hostpitals. And many relatives succumbed. Perhaps you are so close to cancer
    patients that you don't realize how frightened they are for so long after
    cancer treatment but I certainly have seen that.

    I will admit that lately things seem considerably different though. A couple
    that I cycle with both had cancer and both are in remission. And the woman
    cycled right though both her radiation treatments and the chemo. She would
    get tired at the metric century mark but otherwise I wouldn't have known if
    they hadn't told me. So perhaps modern radiation and chemo isn't making them
    as sick and weak as it used to. And maybe the fear today isn't as bad as it
    was a decade ago.But don't tell me that it didn't exist. Don't belittle
    people frightened for their lives and afraid to face their next treatment.
    And then worried for years that they'll have to go through that again.

    Hell, didn't Lance say in his biography that it wasn't until the 5 year mark
    that he relaxed?

  17. That wouldn't create nearly enough EPO to constitute a 'positive'.

  18. On Wed, 21 Sep 2005 01:25:14 GMT, "Tom Kunich" <[email hidden]>

    Quoted message said:

    Don't belittle
    people frightened for their lives and afraid to face their next treatment.
    And then worried for years that they'll have to go through that again.

    I didn't belittle them - that would come from your claim that they
    walk around frightened. And I'm not the one that is close to them,
    other than some are friends and many are acquantances. My wife is the
    one that they walk up to meet.

    OTOH, she has run encounter groups off and on for either churches or
    hospital oncology units for years and I get info heavily filtered.
    Sure, some are frightened all the way through the treatment and
    beyond. And some get through their fears as they confront the
    possibilities in the process of treatment. Not my opinion - what with
    me being pretty much a person that alternates between oblivious and
    otherwise lacking in empathy. Guess that's why I'll trust my wife's
    assessments, as I would probably get it wrong if I were there...

    I've heard too much to think that any of them have it easy. One of my
    wife's patients recently committed suicide from the end results of
    oral cancer, what with losing his job, losing his ability to eat much
    that didn't come from cans and about to lose his wife. Unfortunately
    he also killed his wife. Young mothers walk up and you find out they
    have an unresponsive cancer.

    OTOH, you also find out clueless you are, as many of these people I
    know at least socially. If my wife wasn't part of their treatment,
    they could walk past me up to a couple of weeks before their final
    visit to the hospital and I wouldn't be the wiser. I don't claim
    expertise, just a bit more experience in the difference between what I
    think I know and what I really know. I'm now grateful whenever the two
    are reasonably close.

    And I know (I think) that unless they are wearing a knit hat as the
    only cover of their baldness, you probably don't know whether someone
    is or has taken chemo.

    Curtis L. Russell
    Odenton, MD (USA)
    Just someone on two wheels...

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