Saving a space in line

Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05 10:39 AM:

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The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

I nominate them for the rude people of the day.

nancy

Oh, I dunno.
I'm beginning to think stuff like this seems fair to those doing it, and
seems unfair to those who didn't think to do it themselves. (or didn't have
the means).

Yeah, it's rude. Self-centered, inconsiderate. But is it really wrong?

Now, cutting the line outright, not waiting your turn, that's wrong.

But having a place holder while you shop??? I think it's borderline.

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The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

I nominate them for the rude people of the day.

nancy

I'll second that. I'll also vocalize my disapproval openly in the store to
the people. Going back to get the can of tuna that you forgot is not a big
deal, but bringing a full cart is just plain not fair.
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Edwin Pawlowski said:

I'll second that. I'll also vocalize my disapproval openly in the store

to

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the people. Going back to get the can of tuna that you forgot is not a

big

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deal, but bringing a full cart is just plain not fair.

I'm with you.

I routinely let people with only a few items go ahead of me in line. Mind
you, I ask them explicitly if that is all they are buying and I can tell you
that steam would jet from my ears and I wouldn't be able to hold my tongue
if the person I allowed in line before me was joined by another with a
gravid cart, or by someone who kept running back and forth for more items.

<let 'em eat cake... knowdamean?>

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The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

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I'll second that. I'll also vocalize my disapproval openly in the store
to the people. Going back to get the can of tuna that you forgot is not a
big deal, but bringing a full cart is just plain not fair.

I confess that I've been known to say, get into line with the cart, I just
need
this one thing. But, don't hold up the line waiting for me. But to take a
few
items, then suddenly show up with a gazzilion items and you're still not
done
shopping?

Like you, I don't have a problem with the person who suddenly remembers
they need something and it's only like 15 feet away ... hey. It happens.
But geez. Finish your shopping before getting on line like the rest of us.

nancy

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Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

Daughter-unit Alpha would have immediately voice her shock at 'cutting
the line' -- and would not have stopped voicing her shock until they
looped back to the end of the queue. <G> When it's happened, I let her
go until the targets get the idea. I've only had to verbally back her
once. A college kid jumped in front of a family (in front of us) because
"he only had a couple things." That was his second mistake. He didn't
get a chance at a third.

Me? I'd've voice my displeasure -- loudly and in a very nasty way -- the
first time. The second time I'd've asked for a manager.

You know, sometimes I am so astonished and amazed, I watch what's
happening like ... this can't be happening! By the time I have let them
in, that's when I think, WTF were you thinking. Too late then.

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I nominate them for the rude people of the day.

Seconded. Do we have a quorum to vote?

I don't think so. Too bad.

nancy

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The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in
the best line. Last person only had a handful of stuff.
Cool. Well, guess what, she was holding the place in
line for her husband who had a huge cart of stuff. I
think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

Daughter-unit Alpha would have immediately voice her shock at 'cutting
the line' -- and would not have stopped voicing her shock until they
looped back to the end of the queue. <G> When it's happened, I let her
go until the targets get the idea. I've only had to verbally back her
once. A college kid jumped in front of a family (in front of us) because
"he only had a couple things." That was his second mistake. He didn't
get a chance at a third.

Me? I'd've voice my displeasure -- loudly and in a very nasty way -- the
first time. The second time I'd've asked for a manager.

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I nominate them for the rude people of the day.

Seconded. Do we have a quorum to vote?

The Ranger

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Sheryl Rosen said:

Oh, I dunno.
I'm beginning to think stuff like this seems fair to those doing it, and
seems unfair to those who didn't think to do it themselves. (or didn't have
the means).

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Yeah, it's rude. Self-centered, inconsiderate. But is it really wrong?

If it's rude, self-centered, and inconsiderate, doesn't that mean it's
wrong?

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But having a place holder while you shop??? I think it's borderline.

No. Get on line when you're done. Let the people who've completed their
shopping get out.

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Edwin Pawlowski said:

I'll second that. I'll also vocalize my disapproval openly in the store to
the people. Going back to get the can of tuna that you forgot is not a big
deal, but bringing a full cart is just plain not fair.

Related to, I think, those people who get onto the express line with
about double the maximum items. I won't get on if I have even one above.
I think the similarity is an attitude that they have an absolute right
to get out quickly, regardless of everyone else.

And if you point out that it's an express checkout, they'll usually get
annoyed with you, as if YOU'RE the one doing something wrong.

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Related to, I think, those people who get onto the express line with
about double the maximum items. I won't get on if I have even one above.

(laugh) I have. I feel as if I'm following the spirit of the rule. I
know,
12 items or fewer, I'm supposed to stand in line behind huge carts of
food because I have 13? Don't worry, that happens so rarely it's
not a big deal. Like I'm a serial line invader.

If it's any consolation, I have my money right at hand and I bag like
a speed demon. I usually take up less of people's time than the 3 item
person.

nancy

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Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05 10:39 AM:

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The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

Quoted message said:

Oh, I dunno.
I'm beginning to think stuff like this seems fair to those doing it, and
seems unfair to those who didn't think to do it themselves. (or didn't
have
the means).

Yeah, it's rude. Self-centered, inconsiderate. But is it really wrong?

Now, cutting the line outright, not waiting your turn, that's wrong.

Well, in the spirit of fairness, why didn't they put the full cart in line
instead of the person holding only a few items? Then you'd know
what you were getting into. No problems here with them adding
a few things to a full cart. Adding a full cart to a few items seems
to be what was annoying.

nancy

The switching trick is certainly irritating, possibly rude, but I've
let that one pass.
If they leave the cart in front of me to go get more groceries, I
simply remove their cart from the line and move mine forward. I've
gotten dirty looks, but no one's ever said anything. Maybe it helps
that I'm 6'2", 205, and look like I've been around the block a few
times...

Nancy Young said:

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Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05
10:39 AM:

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the
best line. Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess
what, she was holding the place in
line for her husband who had a huge cart of stuff. I
think this was discussed here relatively recently, what
was the consensus? Is that acceptable? Then, they still needed more
stuff and left to get them.

Quoted message said:

Oh, I dunno.
I'm beginning to think stuff like this seems fair to
those doing it, and seems unfair to those who didn't
think to do it themselves. (or didn't have
the means).

Yeah, it's rude. Self-centered, inconsiderate. But is it
really wrong? Now, cutting the line outright, not waiting your turn,
that's wrong.

Well, in the spirit of fairness, why didn't they put the
full cart in line instead of the person holding only a
few items? Then you'd know what you were getting into. No problems
here with them
adding a few things to a full cart. Adding a full cart to a few
items seems to be what was annoying.

nancy

Where's that kid with the splinter in his hand when you need him?

BOB

Edwin Pawlowski said:

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The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

I nominate them for the rude people of the day.

nancy

I'll second that. I'll also vocalize my disapproval openly in the
store to the people. Going back to get the can of tuna that you
forgot is not a big deal, but bringing a full cart is just plain not
fair.

And Ed, you can always yell out, "I'm the Mayor!" (no one needs to know the
Mayor of what). 🙂

Jill

On Sun, 23 Jan 2005 10:39:54 -0500, "Nancy Young" <[email hidden]>

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The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

I nominate them for the rude people of the day.

I'd say you're being kind and generous when you say that.

Carol
--
"Years ago my mother used to say to me... She'd say,
'In this world Elwood, you must be oh-so smart or oh-so pleasant.'
Well, for years I was smart.... I recommend pleasant. You may quote me."

*James Stewart* in the 1950 movie, _Harvey_

Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05 11:56 AM:

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Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05 10:39 AM:

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The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

Quoted message said:

Oh, I dunno.
I'm beginning to think stuff like this seems fair to those doing it, and
seems unfair to those who didn't think to do it themselves. (or didn't
have
the means).

Yeah, it's rude. Self-centered, inconsiderate. But is it really wrong?

Now, cutting the line outright, not waiting your turn, that's wrong.

Well, in the spirit of fairness, why didn't they put the full cart in line
instead of the person holding only a few items? Then you'd know
what you were getting into. No problems here with them adding
a few things to a full cart. Adding a full cart to a few items seems
to be what was annoying.

nancy

I don't know.
I'm sure I'd have been just as annoyed as you were, had I been behind them.
But I've also done stuff like that. Not on such a busy day when everyone is
trying to get in and out of the store, like a pre "the end of the world is
coming in the form of snow!" day.

I'm just saying....this is the sort of thing that one might do themselves,
and might not see anything wrong with it, but when you are behind the one
doing it, are very annoyed by it. Just to consider both sides.

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Quoted message said:

The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

I nominate them for the rude people of the day.

nancy

I tend to disagree with the practice. I mean, what would prevent me from
paying a proxy to stand in line for me while I grabbed the last 20 items
in the store? Not a damned thing. But it's irritating.

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Quoted message said:

The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Then, they still needed more stuff and left to get them.

I nominate them for the rude people of the day.

nancy

I tend to disagree with the practice. I mean, what would prevent me from
paying a proxy to stand in line for me while I grabbed the last 20 items
in the store? Not a damned thing. But it's irritating.

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Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05 11:56 AM:

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Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05 10:39 AM:

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>The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
>Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
>she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
>cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
>what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Personally I think that sucks, big time. If you'd have seen a full cart
you probably would have gone to a different line. But were you given
that option? Nnnnooooooooooooooooooooooo. Inconsiderate [censored] as far
as I'm concerned, and I would have told them so in no uncertain terms.
Not that they would have cared. So many people are all about "me, me, me
and the hell with everyone else" that it's really sad.

--
Steve

Ever wonder about those people who spend $2.00 apiece on those little
bottles of Evian water? Try spelling Evian backwards...

Sheryl Rosen said:

Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05 11:56 AM:

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Nancy Young at [email hidden] wrote on 1/23/05 10:39 AM:

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>The supermarket was a zoo yesterday, so we got in the best line.
>Last person only had a handful of stuff. Cool. Well, guess what,
>she was holding the place in line for her husband who had a huge
>cart of stuff. I think this was discussed here relatively recently,
>what was the consensus? Is that acceptable?

Personally I think that sucks, big time. If you'd have seen a full cart
you probably would have gone to a different line. But were you given
that option? Nnnnooooooooooooooooooooooo. Inconsiderate [censored] as far
as I'm concerned, and I would have told them so in no uncertain terms.
Not that they would have cared. So many people are all about "me, me, me
and the hell with everyone else" that it's really sad.

--
Steve

Ever wonder about those people who spend $2.00 apiece on those little
bottles of Evian water? Try spelling Evian backwards...