rtsy,
Using an MTB for the road is like driving a Toyota pickup in a drag race. I agree with the other forum users... get a road specific bike.
Even a cheaper bike like a used Trek 1200 or something. Put aero bars on that with a fast-forward seat to open up your hips and tilt the seat forward. It will put more of you over the aero bars and allow you to be more "standing" on the bike, almost like you're running as you pedal. An MTB's geometry will never let you do that.
Per your questions about forks, any suspension AT ALL in the front will add considerable weight (even a SID adds pounds, unlike road forks measured in grams).
Wheels are a whole new ballgame. Wheels add what's called rotational weight to your ride. MTB wheels are built for strength and putting up with the abuse of stumps, rocks, and roots. Keith Bontrager is quoted as saying "Strong, Lightweight, Cheap... pick any two." In other words, a strong MTB wheel is not lightweight. However, road wheels by comparison are far lighter because they don't have to tolerate the same kind of high-impact abuse. Road wheels also have a larger circumference, allowing the wheel to travel farther (26" compared to 700c).
There is also the consideration of gearing. An MTB is geared to climb steep hills and cover short distances quickly. A road bike is far better suited to handle long, steady distances and is geared accordingly. Next time you're at a bike store, put a road bike, any one, next to a mountain bike and look at the gearing. The chain rings up front are far bigger in the road bike, and the cogs in the back are far smaller and have a much more defined range than mountain bikes.
You don't have to go nuts with an expensive road bike. However, if you do get a used bike from a private seller, make sure you get fit at your local bike store. Also, find a place that does triathlon fittings because a tri fit is far different than a regular road fit.