A long story, but this is in response to the allegations [half-truths, exaggerations, intentional ommissions] posted on bikeforums.net & roadbikereview.com about me by their forum member "Nessism". This concerns a deal that Nessism and I had nearly 2 years ago through RoadBikeReview, where I'd initially met him. Since I cannot post there now, I am posting here in the hopes that some from RBR who have been recently directed here by RBR member "HouseMoney" et al will see it, as well as others who may have interest.
This topic has been too long regurgitated elsewhere by Nessism & company without rebuttal, but I will not further debate it after this post. My intention is only to set the record straight with the actual facts, not to engage in an extended internet slugfest about an old feud that will never be settled. I would only ask the mods to lock it if need be but not to delete it, so that it will serve as a reply that I am not otherwise able to provide.
I had lost all e-mails, addresses, & passwords from a hard drive crash, and also near the same time had been kicked from RBR for arguing politics with another member, so I had no way to contact Nessism to finish paying him for a bike part. (This was long before I knew he was also on Bike Forums, or as I much later learned, the computer forum anandtech.com.) I had paid him about 1/3 of the agreed price of the part initially, and our informal agreement was that I was going to pay the rest over time because I'd had ongoing divorce & financial problems. There was no definite date for payment.
Some months passed, and in the meanwhile before I knew he was a member of BF and could have thus contacted him, I found he'd jumped to conclusions that I was trying to stiff him for the balance of payment: he'd posted a twisted, one-sided story about the deal on RBR. It was some time until I knew it even existed, and at any rate I was/am not able to reply since I cannot post or PM there.
Nessism also - with malice aforethought - posted my actual personal info in that thread on RBR, such as real name, home address & phone number, instead of just posting my website username.
When I was finally able to reach him through BF, I explained the hard drive loss and apologized for the delay, and told him I would pay the balance - IF he would not post my personal info all over the web - so that some lunatic couldn't use it to do who knows what. I have a 7-year-old daughter, a significant other, and the house we live in to consider.
Nessism decided that that was the best way to try to force me to pay him the balance. Up to that point I told him I'd had no disagreement with paying him, and I had intended to pay him all along, but that I was not going to be publically slandered or blackmailed by anyone in that manner - the choice was his. When he persisted in his anger, I offered instead to give back the item because I was not going to reward him for selfishly putting my family & home in potential danger.
He did not need to retract my username or what he claimed about our deal, although that would have been appropriate since much of his claim was/is erroneous; I was mainly concerned that he delete my real name, address, and phone number from his thread for reasons stated. He decided not to do so, therefore he did not get the balance for the item. Subsequently, I told Nessism if he wanted the item returned that he could issue a call tag for the item to be picked up. To this date he has not done so.
By then the damage had been done as I've explained long ago to Nessism, and that because of what he's done he will never get another cent out of me. He continued to harrass me through forum PM's long after, but not through e-mail because he must know that would be a crime. My personal info has been for quite some time and is still being splattered all over cyberspace, thanks to Nessism's ignorant and hasty assumptions, anger, and callous disregard for even the safety of young children.
(Side Note: The last I looked some months ago, he still had in his signature on BF a link to that same thread on RBR, which is why I subsequently put a reference to his behavior in my BF sig as well. However, after Nessism and others began a thread there also - like on RBR - to spread his false story, the mods at BF have said they would not tolerate this issue being battled out in public on BF. They then locked the thread.)
As it stands today, he and a few of his friends on RBR (and/or a few of the "political enemies" I made there) are still trying to keep this thing current by their continued updating to his original thread. Hence my posting here now.
Since this incident began, I and my S.O. have had several identity theft attempts (one that was successful), and attempts to invade our online financial accounts. Also, our garage was entered last July and 2 bikes were stolen. None of this (ID/account theft) had ever happened to either of us in the past, nor burglary here in 6 years of living in this neighborhood. I have no way to know what further invasions, or worse, may be in store for myself or family members.
I would caution anyone to steer clear of "Nessism" of bikeforums.net, roadbikereview.com, and anandtech.com forums.
