Re: Picky Dinner Guests

Quoted message said:

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?
Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.
it's clear to me who the [censored] in this scenario is. And it's not the
picky eater.

Poppycock. Consider the alternatives. They could forgo all the things they
like for the sake of someone who picky and then everyone else suffers, or
they could have a confrontation over it.

I know what it is like. I have had my brother and his family over for
Christmas dinner for the past few years. His oldest one (in his 30s) is a
very picky eater. Luckily he likes turkey and some vegetables. Dessert was
a problem. We had the usual items that are traditional in our family,
Christmas pudding, dark and light fruitcakes, mincemeat, short breads,
brownies, Black forest squares, a few other types of cookies and fruit.
You would think that they were be something for everyone there. The kid
looks at the dessert spread and whines aloud "There's nothing for me. I
don't like any of that stuff." the next year I suggested that his mother
bring something that he will eat.

Quoted message said:

jmcquown said:

The only cheese she will eat is cheddar but ONLY mild cheddar.
Gee, sorry, I bought sharp cheddar, pepper-jack and colby. That's
too bad...

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?

How can I possibly know what she will eat? I did my shopping based on what
my brothers and I like. I'm not catering to this woman; there's no reason
anyone should. She can bring her own damn food if she's going to be so
picky about everything.

Quoted message said:

Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.

You've got that right. Given the choice this brother and his companion
wouldn't be there at all. I'll send them over to your place and let you
deal with them!

Dave Smith said:

Quoted message said:

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?
Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.
it's clear to me who the [censored] in this scenario is. And it's not the
picky eater.

Poppycock. Consider the alternatives. They could forgo all the
things they like for the sake of someone who picky and then everyone
else suffers, or they could have a confrontation over it.

There's no confrontation. She either finds or brings something she can eat
or not. We aren't catering to her whims. I didn't even know about her
preference about only *one* type of cheese and no "stuff" in crackers until
after I'd gone shopping.

Quoted message said:

I know what it is like. I have had my brother and his family over for
Christmas dinner for the past few years. His oldest one (in his 30s)
is a very picky eater. Luckily he likes turkey and some vegetables.
Dessert was a problem. We had the usual items that are traditional in
our family, Christmas pudding, dark and light fruitcakes, mincemeat,
short breads, brownies, Black forest squares, a few other types of
cookies and fruit. You would think that they were be something for
everyone there. The kid looks at the dessert spread and whines aloud
"There's nothing for me. I don't like any of that stuff." the next
year I suggested that his mother bring something that he will eat.

He's in his 30's and he can't bring something himself?! That's a shame!
This woman is at least 60. She'll probably bring some Wonder Bread rolls
and have that and some turkey. It's not up to us to cater to anyone, be
they adults or children.

As I said in my original post, I have no problem trying to accomodate food
allergies or health conditions. But just plain being picky? Nope. Deal
with your food issues yourself; don't expect me to do it for you.

Jill <---going to buy sourdough rolls on the way to Scott's house

jmcquown said:

He's in his 30's and he can't bring something himself?!

He lives at home with his parents and spends all his money and time on
computer games. There is not much more to say. He especially dislikes
anything red.

Quoted message said:

That's a shame!
This woman is at least 60. She'll probably bring some Wonder Bread rolls
and have that and some turkey. It's not up to us to cater to anyone, be
they adults or children.

I agree. I think the worst situation I ever ran into was a great niece who
showed up at Boxing Day family Christmas gathering. I didn't know she was
around. I didn't know that she was a vegan. Her father had planned to bring
some vegan food with him but he forgot it at home. Plus they showed up at
the last minute, so my wife was running around trying to find something
that she could eat and she had to read all the ingredients. A year and a
half later she was sitting across from me in a restaurant with a breakfast
buffet and I was naturally curious about what she had found to eat at the
buffet tables....... bacon, ham, roast beef.....

And that is one of the major reasons I refuse to cater to fad diets.

Quoted message said:

As I said in my original post, I have no problem trying to accomodate food
allergies or health conditions. But just plain being picky? Nope. Deal
with your food issues yourself; don't expect me to do it for you.

There is picky and their is pure childishness. There is no way I am going
to dumb down a dinner for a picky person. A traditional Thanksgiving dinner
around here is roast turkey with stuffing, gravy, mashed potatoes, squash,
beans, corn, salad, rolls, cranberry sauce, pumpkin pie and/or apple pie,
fruit and cheese plate. If someone can't find something to eat out of all
that they should plan on stopping at McDonalds on the way there or the way
back.

jmcquown said:

Quoted message said:

jmcquown said:

The only cheese she will eat is cheddar but ONLY mild cheddar.
Gee, sorry, I bought sharp cheddar, pepper-jack and colby. That's
too bad...

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?

How can I possibly know what she will eat? I did my shopping based on what
my brothers and I like. I'm not catering to this woman; there's no reason
anyone should. She can bring her own damn food if she's going to be so
picky about everything.

Quoted message said:

Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.

You've got that right. Given the choice this brother and his companion
wouldn't be there at all. I'll send them over to your place and let you
deal with them!

if i had to bet, i'd bet she won't complain half as much as you have
already.

your pal,
blake

Quoted message said:

There's no confrontation. She either finds or brings something she can eat
or not. We aren't catering to her whims. I didn't even know about her
preference about only *one* type of cheese and no "stuff" in crackers until
after I'd gone shopping.

As I said in my original post, I have no problem trying to accomodate food
allergies or health conditions. But just plain being picky? Nope. Deal
with your food issues yourself; don't expect me to do it for you.

As I said in my earlier post, there's clearly something screwy in her
upbringing that has affected this way. I don't think she sees that she
has a choice in the matter. It's called a mental illness. She needs
help, not bad attitude.

Quoted message said:

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?
Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.
it's clear to me who the [censored] in this scenario is. And it's not the
picky eater.

Nonsense. The woman likes turkey, and there will be plenty at the
table. She asks the guest to bring rolls that the guest likes and
serves them along with some that everyone else will like better. The
gracious thing to do is what the original poster is doing. She serves a
nice meal, doesn't call undue attention to the picky guest at the table,
and lets off steam here where it won't do the guest any harm.

--Lia

jmcquown said:

As I said in my original post, I have no problem trying to accomodate food
allergies or health conditions.

Speaking of health conditions, how's this guest's health and general
condition? There's no risk to health if you don't eat poppy seeds, but
never eating any fruits or any vegetables? I should think there would
be a lack of vitamins, minerals, and fiber in her diet. You don't need
a lot of variety in those areas, but you do need some. If there were
one fruit or vegetable she liked, even if it was just an apple a day and
some carrot sticks, I wouldn't have such a tough time imagining it.

--Lia

In article <[email hidden]>,

Dave Smith said:

jmcquown wrote:

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

As I said in my original post, I have no problem trying to accomodate food
allergies or health conditions. But just plain being picky? Nope. Deal
with your food issues yourself; don't expect me to do it for you.

There is picky and their is pure childishness. There is no way I am going
to dumb down a dinner for a picky person. A traditional Thanksgiving dinner
around here is roast turkey with stuffing, gravy, mashed potatoes, squash,
beans, corn, salad, rolls, cranberry sauce, pumpkin pie and/or apple pie,
fruit and cheese plate. If someone can't find something to eat out of all
that they should plan on stopping at McDonalds on the way there or the way
back.

There's "bits" in McDonald's. 😉

Miche

--
Electricians do it in three phases

Julia Altshuler said:

Quoted message said:

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?
Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.
it's clear to me who the [censored] in this scenario is. And it's not the
picky eater.

Nonsense. The woman likes turkey, and there will be plenty at the
table. She asks the guest to bring rolls that the guest likes and
serves them along with some that everyone else will like better. The
gracious thing to do is what the original poster is doing. She
serves a nice meal, doesn't call undue attention to the picky guest
at the table, and lets off steam here where it won't do the guest any
harm.

Thanks, Lia. Actually, the dinner was at my brother's house. And while I
let off a little steam *here* and poked fun at her pickiness on rfc (I don't
really understand pickiness to that extreme), I surely wouldn't have taunted
her with it face to face. IMy brother, on the other hand, wouldn't let up
on her all day long. He'd say, "Surely you'll eat this" and "are you sure
you won't try some of that?" He even used the expression "dumb down" when
he said there's only so much he can do to accomodate her. She never asked
anyone to accomodate her!

And he made a big production after he found out she'd eat green beans <gasp>
of making sure everyone knew they weren't sauteed with mushrooms because she
won't eat mushrooms but she'll eat cream of mushroom soup. He nagged at her
about what she wouldn't eat *all day long*. If it was me I'd have punched
him right in the mouth.

This behaviour served to remind me why I haven't had Thanksgiving dinner at
his house for a lonnnng time. He was picking on everyone all day. I was so
glad to get back home!

In article <[email hidden]>,

jmcquown said:

Quoted message said:

jmcquown said:

The only cheese she will eat is cheddar but ONLY mild cheddar.
Gee, sorry, I bought sharp cheddar, pepper-jack and colby. That's
too bad...

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?

How can I possibly know what she will eat? I did my shopping based on what
my brothers and I like. I'm not catering to this woman; there's no reason
anyone should. She can bring her own damn food if she's going to be so
picky about everything.

Quoted message said:

Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.

You've got that right. Given the choice this brother and his companion
wouldn't be there at all. I'll send them over to your place and let you
deal with them!

Sorry I missed the original post, but the picky eater in question would
probably not like anything that was put in front of her. I worked with a
fellow, that while a nice guy, would not eat at any of the group lunches
or company sponsored functions. Various people asked him what was the
matter, and he would not answer; he'd just smile and eat nothing. He
missed out on some good food.

--
Jack N2MPU
Proud NRA Life Member

The message <[email hidden]>
from Jack <[email hidden]> contains these words:

Quoted message said:

. I worked with a
fellow, that while a nice guy, would not eat at any of the group lunches
or company sponsored functions. Various people asked him what was the
matter, and he would not answer; he'd just smile and eat nothing. He
missed out on some good food.

Maybe he was a very strict vegan, or ate strictly Kosher, and found
that a smiling refusal was the simplest and least controversial way to
avoid compromising his beliefs or having to explain them for the
zillionth time. As someone else has said, it can get very tiresome
trying to explain reasons for dietary choices at social events, to
people who turn it into an inquisition/ excuse for ridicule.

Janet.

In article <[email hidden]>,

Dave Smith said:

Quoted message said:

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?
Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.
it's clear to me who the [censored] in this scenario is. And it's not the
picky eater.

Poppycock. Consider the alternatives. They could forgo all the things they
like for the sake of someone who picky and then everyone else suffers, or
they could have a confrontation over it.

I know what it is like.

I'm not sure I do. I'm a very picky eater myself. I have never starved
to death. It's very seldom that I can't find enough food at somebody's
place. I never whine, unless people try to convince me to eat things
that I don't want. My daughter was a vegetarian for eight years, and a
vegan for a short while. No whining. There was always food, she just
didn't choose the ones with meat. My sister was a vegetarian for 13
years. When we went to somebody's house, she would just ask in advance,
and often volunteer to bring a vegetarian dish. Lots of people who eat
meat, also like vegetarian dishes. I often do.

If I don't like something, I just don't eat it. If somebody else
doesn't like something, I expect the same consideration.

In article <[email hidden]>,

Dave Smith said:

I agree. I think the worst situation I ever ran into was a great niece who
showed up at Boxing Day family Christmas gathering. I didn't know she was
around. I didn't know that she was a vegan. Her father had planned to bring
some vegan food with him but he forgot it at home. Plus they showed up at
the last minute, so my wife was running around trying to find something
that she could eat and she had to read all the ingredients. A year and a
half later she was sitting across from me in a restaurant with a breakfast
buffet and I was naturally curious about what she had found to eat at the
buffet tables....... bacon, ham, roast beef.....

And that is one of the major reasons I refuse to cater to fad diets.

I've heard that doctors seldom worry about vitamin B12 deficiencies in
young vegetarians. This could be a serious problem, but the body
usually has a three year supply stored up. After a couple of years, the
doctor asks. They are seldom still vegetarians. I was concerned about
my daughter, since she was a young vegetarian for 8 years. She had
already checked it out and taken care of it.

"blake murphy" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Quoted message said:

jmcquown said:

Quoted message said:

On Nov 22, 12:22 am, "jmcquown" <[email hidden]> wrote:

> The only cheese she will eat is cheddar but ONLY mild cheddar.
> Gee, sorry, I bought sharp cheddar, pepper-jack and colby. That's
> too bad...
>

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?

How can I possibly know what she will eat? I did my shopping based on
what
my brothers and I like. I'm not catering to this woman; there's no reason
anyone should. She can bring her own damn food if she's going to be so
picky about everything.

Quoted message said:

Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.

You've got that right. Given the choice this brother and his companion
wouldn't be there at all. I'll send them over to your place and let you
deal with them!

if i had to bet, i'd bet she won't complain half as much as you have
already.

BINGO!!!!!

Quoted message said:

your pal,
blake

On Fri, 23 Nov 2007 08:25:48 +1300, Miche <[email hidden]>

Quoted message said:

In article <[email hidden]>,

Dave Smith said:

jmcquown wrote:

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

As I said in my original post, I have no problem trying to accomodate food
allergies or health conditions. But just plain being picky? Nope. Deal
with your food issues yourself; don't expect me to do it for you.

There is picky and their is pure childishness. There is no way I am going
to dumb down a dinner for a picky person. A traditional Thanksgiving dinner
around here is roast turkey with stuffing, gravy, mashed potatoes, squash,
beans, corn, salad, rolls, cranberry sauce, pumpkin pie and/or apple pie,
fruit and cheese plate. If someone can't find something to eat out of all
that they should plan on stopping at McDonalds on the way there or the way
back.

There's "bits" in McDonald's. 😉

Miche

tiny bits of beef, yes.

your pal,
blake

Dave Smith said:

jmcquown said:

He's in his 30's and he can't bring something himself?!

He lives at home with his parents and spends all his money and time on
computer games. There is not much more to say. He especially dislikes
anything red.

Quoted message said:

That's a shame!
This woman is at least 60. She'll probably bring some Wonder Bread rolls
and have that and some turkey. It's not up to us to cater to anyone, be
they adults or children.

I agree. I think the worst situation I ever ran into was a great niece who
showed up at Boxing Day family Christmas gathering. I didn't know she was
around. I didn't know that she was a vegan. Her father had planned to bring
some vegan food with him but he forgot it at home. Plus they showed up at
the last minute, so my wife was running around trying to find something
that she could eat and she had to read all the ingredients. A year and a
half later she was sitting across from me in a restaurant with a breakfast
buffet and I was naturally curious about what she had found to eat at the
buffet tables....... bacon, ham, roast beef.....

some years ago my boss, my boss was enlisted to make the cake for the
monthy birthday gizmo, and one of the women in the office asked that
he get his wife to use a particular mix that had no animal fat in it,
as she was a vegetarian. he's easy-going, and said sure.

a week later he sees the woman at her desk, chowing down on a chicken
leg. man, he was [censored].

your pal,
blake

Dan Abel said:

In article <[email hidden]>,

Dave Smith said:

Quoted message said:

A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?
Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
or his companion.
it's clear to me who the [censored] in this scenario is. And it's not the
picky eater.

Poppycock. Consider the alternatives. They could forgo all the things they
like for the sake of someone who picky and then everyone else suffers, or
they could have a confrontation over it.

I know what it is like.

I'm not sure I do. I'm a very picky eater myself. I have never starved
to death. It's very seldom that I can't find enough food at somebody's
place. I never whine, unless people try to convince me to eat things
that I don't want. My daughter was a vegetarian for eight years, and a
vegan for a short while. No whining. There was always food, she just
didn't choose the ones with meat. My sister was a vegetarian for 13
years. When we went to somebody's house, she would just ask in advance,
and often volunteer to bring a vegetarian dish. Lots of people who eat
meat, also like vegetarian dishes. I often do.

If I don't like something, I just don't eat it. If somebody else
doesn't like something, I expect the same consideration.

exactly. if either the picky people or the host make a fuss about it,
they're just rude. (why do so many people seem to think it's o.k. to
be rude when 'it's just family'?)

your pal,
blake

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Quoted message said:

jmcquown said:

[email hidden] wrote:
> On Nov 22, 12:22 am, "jmcquown" <[email hidden]> wrote:
>
>> The only cheese she will eat is cheddar but ONLY mild cheddar.
>> Gee, sorry, I bought sharp cheddar, pepper-jack and colby. That's
>> too bad...
>>
>
> A little passive aggressive, wouldn't you say, Jill? Would it have
> killed you to buy just one thing this woman will eat?

How can I possibly know what she will eat? I did my shopping based on
what
my brothers and I like. I'm not catering to this woman; there's no
reason
anyone should. She can bring her own damn food if she's going to be so
picky about everything.

> Picky or not, it's quite obvious you have no respect for your brother
> or his companion.

You've got that right. Given the choice this brother and his companion
wouldn't be there at all. I'll send them over to your place and let you
deal with them!

if i had to bet, i'd bet she won't complain half as much as you have
already.

BINGO!!!!!

Jill just keeps getting smaller every year.