Maggie said:Neil Brooks said:
It sounds to me as though you chose to ride two hours over the
weekend, and likely /could/ have chosen to ride ten nearly as easily,
no?
Sis comes at 11, instead of at 9. Father's Day is a dinner instead of
a lunch, etc., etc., etc.
Does life revolve around me? The husbands' Sis drives 6 hours to get
to my house. Do I tell her when to get here or work around what she can
do?
Short answer: yeah . . . absolutely.
The point that many people are making is that--kids or no kids, family
obligations or no family obligations--many/most of us are faced with
/similar/ issues (choices). The trick is making the choices that
reflect your priorities.
I mean no offense when I say: cycling is just not your priority.
Quoted message said:Maybe if I am passionate about cycling, I am supposed to bike whenever
I want......but my life isn't all about me. It hasn't been all about
me for decades. I am happy my toddlers have grown up so I can pee by
myself.
Someday, hopefully, I can retire. Someday, I may have different
priorites. Who the heck knows.
That's all well and good, Maggie, and I'm not here to sell you
/anything/, but I'm fairly certain that there are parents out there
juggling the same issues that you're raising, and riding N miles/week
nonetheless.
Quoted message said:No, Personally, I could not have chosen to ride 10 hours this past
weekend with all the people at my home. It would have been rude to just
leave. My sister in law stays over, and Fathers Day was a mad house.
No, I could not choose to ride 10 hours. It would not be in my nature
to put the family behind my riding a bike.
Sigh. And there it all is: the excuse parade. If cycling were as
important to you as it likely is to many of us, the weekend would have
been /planned/ differently to accommodate your needs, *too*.
Notice I said "too?" The assumption you seem to make is, "If I
prioritize riding, everybody else gets screwed." I doubt it, but . .
.. as always . . . YMMV. I'm not here to sell you anything.
Quoted message said:Even if I want it to be, the whole world doesn't revolve around me and
what I want. It took me a long time to learn that. I know people who
think the world revolves around them and they can do basically what
they please. Most of them are single. ;-)
That's somewhere between arrogance and martyrdom IMHO. It's called
"zero-sum" thinking. IOW: For me to win, you have to lose.
There are lots and lots and lots and lots of ways for all to get their
needs met in this sort of situation. If it were your priority, I'm
sure you'd find one . . . but, again, I'm not here to sell you
anything.
Quoted message said:I'll ride tonight after
work. That will be my choice because the relatives are gone. My
priority was the family this past weekend, and the family isn't into
bike riding.
Nice!
Quoted message said:Maggie - Last on the food chain
Only if you put yourself there....