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So today I went to see a grieving specialist in hopes that I could be

around

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people that feel the way I do in a group setting but she wants me to go

to

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therapy due to my history of Major Depression and compulsive disorder

and to

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go on meds. I told her meds aren't right for me at this time I feel to

Ok to

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numb myself... I like feeling and missed it when I had to be on meds. I

also

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told her I was going to feel my way past the one year anniversary of my

dads

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death and call one of her therapists if I feel I need it. She told me

to

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keep a journal because all therapy is, is talking your feelings out and

that

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just might be enough for me. I told her I will do that.

I'm just scared because my dad passed away on Feb 5th and my birthday

is Feb

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4th. I'm worried that it might be to much for me to deal with. How do

you

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enjoy your birthday after something like that? I'm only 30 I should get

at

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least a call from my mom and dad at this age, at least after my mom

passed

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away I still had my dad. I feel so bad for people that loose there

parents

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when they are kids they must miss them so much when they have big

events

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happening (first date, prom, getting braces off, graduation, learning

to

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drive) I know I will miss them when I have a baby.

I just had to get it off my chest, sorry
Angie

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Thank you Cheri
Angie

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I'm just scared because my dad passed away on Feb 5th and my birthday is Feb
4th. I'm worried that it might be to much for me to deal with. How do you
enjoy your birthday after something like that? I'm only 30 I should get at
least a call from my mom and dad at this age, at least after my mom passed
away I still had my dad. I feel so bad for people that loose there parents
when they are kids they must miss them so much when they have big events
happening (first date, prom, getting braces off, graduation, learning to
drive) I know I will miss them when I have a baby.

I just had to get it off my chest, sorry

I'm so sorry for your loss, Angie :-( This is the first year for you,
so it will be hard, but it DOES get better with time. A long time ago I
lost someone early in December -- he had gone into a coma the day after
Thanksgiving, so Thanksgiving and Christmas were hard for me for a long
time, but it got better each year. {{{{{{{{{{ ANGIE }}}}}}}}}}

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"AngieRose" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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So today I went to see a grieving specialist in hopes that I could be
around
people that feel the way I do in a group setting but she wants me to go to
therapy due to my history of Major Depression and compulsive disorder and
to
go on meds. I told her meds aren't right for me at this time I feel to Ok
to
numb myself... I like feeling and missed it when I had to be on meds. I
also
told her I was going to feel my way past the one year anniversary of my
dads
death and call one of her therapists if I feel I need it. She told me to
keep a journal because all therapy is, is talking your feelings out and
that
just might be enough for me. I told her I will do that.

I'm just scared because my dad passed away on Feb 5th and my birthday is
Feb
4th. I'm worried that it might be to much for me to deal with. How do you
enjoy your birthday after something like that? I'm only 30 I should get at
least a call from my mom and dad at this age, at least after my mom passed
away I still had my dad. I feel so bad for people that loose there parents
when they are kids they must miss them so much when they have big events
happening (first date, prom, getting braces off, graduation, learning to
drive) I know I will miss them when I have a baby.

I just had to get it off my chest, sorry
Angie

I hear you, Angie, and get it.

The best thing you can ever do for yourself is get past the drama and make a
life for youraself. Nobody will do that better for yourself than you can.

We all have lost people. I know it hurts. You have to decide what you want
to do.

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I'm so sorry for your loss, Angie :-( This is the first year for you,
so it will be hard, but it DOES get better with time. A long time ago I
lost someone early in December -- he had gone into a coma the day after
Thanksgiving, so Thanksgiving and Christmas were hard for me for a long
time, but it got better each year. {{{{{{{{{{ ANGIE }}}}}}}}}}

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Saffire

Its been almost 6 years since my mom passed and it does get less painfull
unless I really think about it. I hope your right and my birthday will get
more enjoyable as time passes. I have to stop thinking of it as the day
before.
Thanks Saffire
Angie

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I hear you, Angie, and get it.

The best thing you can ever do for yourself is get past the drama and make

a

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life for youraself. Nobody will do that better for yourself than you can.

We all have lost people. I know it hurts. You have to decide what you

want

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to do.

I'm trying my best to move on after all they did right? I just have to
remember that they are together again and much more happy then when they
were apart. Hey at least it didn't happen on my birthday and I got to talk
to my dad the night before.

Thank you Jim
Angie

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I'm just scared because my dad passed away on Feb 5th and my birthday is

Feb

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4th.

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AngieRose said:

So today I went to see a grieving specialist in hopes that I could be around
people that feel the way I do in a group setting but she wants me to go to
therapy due to my history of Major Depression and compulsive disorder and to
go on meds. I told her meds aren't right for me at this time I feel to Ok to
numb myself... I like feeling and missed it when I had to be on meds. I also
told her I was going to feel my way past the one year anniversary of my dads
death and call one of her therapists if I feel I need it. She told me to
keep a journal because all therapy is, is talking your feelings out and that
just might be enough for me. I told her I will do that.

I'm just scared because my dad passed away on Feb 5th and my birthday is Feb
4th. I'm worried that it might be to much for me to deal with. How do you
enjoy your birthday after something like that? I'm only 30 I should get at
least a call from my mom and dad at this age, at least after my mom passed
away I still had my dad. I feel so bad for people that loose there parents
when they are kids they must miss them so much when they have big events
happening (first date, prom, getting braces off, graduation, learning to
drive) I know I will miss them when I have a baby.

I just had to get it off my chest, sorry
Angie

Angie,

My dad died in a car accident last April--I know how you're feeling
right now. My birthday was yesterday, and it was hard not having him
around, same as it's been hard on all of the holidays and special
occasions.

My mother is still grieving deeply, but I think the meds help her a lot,
as well as being surrounded and supported by family. I really think a
support group can help you to express your feelings of loss in a healthy
way. The grief process is different for everyone--we have to cope in
our own way. My way was to throw myself into a variety of work and home
projects and to make myself to busy to think too much. I also took over
my father's business--something that ties me to him in many ways.

Getting through this time will be hard, but my advice (and I hope I can
follow my own when the time comes) is to use the day to pay homage to
your father. Perhaps visiting a place or doing an activity you both
enjoyed. Or just visiting his site and having a talk--and a good cry.

Hope all goes well, and have a good birthday.

Amy

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So today I went to see a grieving specialist...

{{{{Angie}}}}

Have you ever done Cognitive Behavior Therapy? I don't know what it is, but
apparently it's good for dealing with things that can't be dealt with by talk
therapy / psychotherapy. Out of curiosity I'd just borrowed some books and hope
to learn a bit about it.

Another strategy is to think about people who are in worse situations than
yourself, I guess it helps to make the pain more bearable because you won't feel
so alone.

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AngieRose said:

So today I went to see a grieving specialist...

{{{{Angie}}}}

Have you ever done Cognitive Behavior Therapy? I don't know what it is,

but

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apparently it's good for dealing with things that can't be dealt with by

talk

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therapy / psychotherapy. Out of curiosity I'd just borrowed some books

and hope

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to learn a bit about it.

Cognitive Therapy was the best thing I ever did it helped me learn how to
deal/control my social anxiety, temper, compulsive disorder and depression.

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Another strategy is to think about people who are in worse situations than
yourself, I guess it helps to make the pain more bearable because you

won't feel

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so alone.

I try to do this I know I'm not the worst off because I lost my mom and dad
so young. I know people are starving and people just lost large amounts of
family and homes thanks to the tsunami and I know young children all over
the world loose parents everyday. I understand this and thank God everyday
for what I have. I also thank god for such good Parents.

Thanks for the hug,
Angie

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I'm just scared because my dad passed away on Feb 5th and my birthday is
Feb
4th. I'm worried that it might be to much for me to deal with.

Oh, Angie, that is so rough. My Mum's and my sister's birthdays are very
close together; since Mum died, we've celebrated my sister's birthday the
weekend before, and had a special remember for Mum the weekend after. The
separation has helped us, especially my sister.

Nicky.

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1g Metformin, 87.5ug Thyroxine
T2 DX 05/2004

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I'm just scared because my dad passed away on Feb 5th and my birthday is
Feb
4th. I'm worried that it might be to much for me to deal with.

Oh, Angie, that is so rough. My Mum's and my sister's birthdays are very
close together; since Mum died, we've celebrated my sister's birthday the
weekend before, and had a special remember for Mum the weekend after. The
separation has helped us, especially my sister.

Nicky.

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A1c 10.5/5.7/<6 Weight 95/78/72Kg
1g Metformin, 87.5ug Thyroxine
T2 DX 05/2004

Thanks for the advice I'll have to do that next year... This year its just
to late. This year I'm going to be around a lot of friends so I hope that
helps then I work on sat so maybe I wont have time to think about it. I hope
you and your sister are doing well.

Angie

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I hope
you and your sister are doing well.

We are, thankyou. One day at a time, sometimes. But it does get better.

Nicky.