OT: For whatever it is worth

"Jaime" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in any
other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much happiness

in

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the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,
Jaime

Wow, Chris said you would leave. I knew he was right but I didn't think it
would be so soon. Just when the fun was beginning.

We'll miss you, for a minute.

Seek help,
Gina

"Jaime" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Quoted message said:

I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in any
other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much happiness
in the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,
Jaime

You know, Jaime, it's all been just words. Don't take it too seriously -
it's not real life here. If you think it helps you to be here, then be here.
If not, don't.

That said, a very Merry Christmas to you and your children, nad wishing you
a great New Year. And thank you for your wishes!

HG

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Jaime said:

I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in any
other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much happiness in
the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,
Jaime

Huh. Yeah, you've said some mean things sometimes, but so have a lot of
people in here, and I don't think that's what most of the critiques
directed at you are actually about. I don't think anyone here has
actually been hurt by you. It's more that people get fatigued with
hearing that you're on track to make positive changes in your life, and
then it all falls apart. Over and over. And, it seems you most often
post about either being with a new guy or losing a guy, as if that's the
most important thing in your life. Maybe as an overweight woman you
feel you have to prove your attractiveness by letting us all know when
you have a boyfriend, and then when the relationship falls apart you
have to let us know it was all _his_ fault so we don't think any less of
you. Abusive, manipulative [censored] are attracted to weak, insecure
women, Jaime. But you get so wrapped up in your image that you don't
want anyone to see that you're weak, so you won't even admit it to
yourself. Weak and insecure are not insults, they're not moral
judgments, they're simply temporary states of mind which can be remedied
in many different ways. Getting a new boyfriend, even a good one, is not
one of the ways. It derails your focus onto someone else, when it needs
to be on yourself. Think of all the things your perfect man would say
to you to help support you, all the things he would say to make you feel
valued and beautiful and important, and start saying them to yourself,
and start believing them.

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in
any
other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much happiness
in
the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,
Jaime

Huh. Yeah, you've said some mean things sometimes, but so have a lot of
people in here, and I don't think that's what most of the critiques
directed at you are actually about. I don't think anyone here has
actually been hurt by you. It's more that people get fatigued with
hearing that you're on track to make positive changes in your life, and
then it all falls apart. Over and over. And, it seems you most often
post about either being with a new guy or losing a guy, as if that's the
most important thing in your life. Maybe as an overweight woman you
feel you have to prove your attractiveness by letting us all know when
you have a boyfriend, and then when the relationship falls apart you
have to let us know it was all _his_ fault so we don't think any less of
you. Abusive, manipulative [censored] are attracted to weak, insecure
women, Jaime. But you get so wrapped up in your image that you don't
want anyone to see that you're weak, so you won't even admit it to
yourself. Weak and insecure are not insults, they're not moral
judgments, they're simply temporary states of mind which can be remedied
in many different ways. Getting a new boyfriend, even a good one, is not
one of the ways. It derails your focus onto someone else, when it needs
to be on yourself. Think of all the things your perfect man would say
to you to help support you, all the things he would say to make you feel
valued and beautiful and important, and start saying them to yourself,
and start believing them.

Well said, Luna.

"Jaime" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Quoted message said:

I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in any
other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much happiness
in the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,
Jaime

I haven't found the messages you are referring to, but wish you a very Merry
Christmas!!!

Always thinking of you fondly,

Carol Ann

Same to you Jaime. I wish you well. :-)

--
Cheri

Jaime wrote in message ...

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I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in

any

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other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much

happiness in

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the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,
Jaime

"Luna" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Huh. Yeah, you've said some mean things sometimes, but so have a lot of
people in here, and I don't think that's what most of the critiques
directed at you are actually about. I don't think anyone here has
actually been hurt by you. It's more that people get fatigued with
hearing that you're on track to make positive changes in your life, and
then it all falls apart. Over and over. And, it seems you most often
post about either being with a new guy or losing a guy, as if that's the
most important thing in your life. Maybe as an overweight woman you
feel you have to prove your attractiveness by letting us all know when
you have a boyfriend, and then when the relationship falls apart you
have to let us know it was all _his_ fault so we don't think any less of
you. Abusive, manipulative [censored] are attracted to weak, insecure
women, Jaime. But you get so wrapped up in your image that you don't
want anyone to see that you're weak, so you won't even admit it to
yourself. Weak and insecure are not insults, they're not moral
judgments, they're simply temporary states of mind which can be remedied
in many different ways. Getting a new boyfriend, even a good one, is not
one of the ways. It derails your focus onto someone else, when it needs
to be on yourself. Think of all the things your perfect man would say
to you to help support you, all the things he would say to make you feel
valued and beautiful and important, and start saying them to yourself,
and start believing them.

This is excellent advice.

HG

Gina Strahan wrote:
|| "Jaime" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
|| news:[email hidden]...
||| I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the
||| bad. You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in
||| here (or in any other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said
||| to anyone.
||| With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much
||| happiness in the New Year and in life.
||| I'm unsubscribing now,
||| Jaime
|||
|||
||
||
|| Wow, Chris said you would leave. I knew he was right but I didn't
|| think it would be so soon. Just when the fun was beginning.
||
|| We'll miss you, for a minute.
||
|| Seek help,
|| Gina

Now if you would just leave, you evil [censored]...

Jaime wrote:
|| I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the
|| bad.
|| You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or
|| in any other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
|| With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much
|| happiness in the New Year and in life.
|| I'm unsubscribing now,
|| Jaime

Jaime, I wish you all the best that life has to offer. Enjoy your Holidays.
--
Peter
Website: http://users.thelink.net/marengo

Now if you'll just move back to France and have a nuke fall on Paris...

--
You take stupid to a new level. -- MFW

"Marengo" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Gina Strahan wrote:
|| "Jaime" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
|| news:[email hidden]...
||| I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the
||| bad. You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in
||| here (or in any other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said
||| to anyone.
||| With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much
||| happiness in the New Year and in life.
||| I'm unsubscribing now,
||| Jaime
|||
|||
||
||
|| Wow, Chris said you would leave. I knew he was right but I didn't
|| think it would be so soon. Just when the fun was beginning.
||
|| We'll miss you, for a minute.
||
|| Seek help,
|| Gina

Now if you would just leave, you evil [censored]...

Yep just about as long as we would miss you were you to disappear.
That was pretty mean,
You might pray that nobody takes you up on your attitude that someone
deserves to be smacked around because of the irritation they caused you,
listening to you being a [censored] is just as trying to some of us on this
newsgroup as listening to someone talk about their problems seems to be to
you.-------------NICE!!

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We'll miss you, for a minute.

Seek help,
Gina

"Luna" <> wrote in message

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in
any
other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much happiness
in
the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,
Jaime

Huh. Yeah, you've said some mean things sometimes, but so have a lot of
people in here, and I don't think that's what most of the critiques
directed at you are actually about. I don't think anyone here has
actually been hurt by you. It's more that people get fatigued with
hearing that you're on track to make positive changes in your life, and
then it all falls apart. Over and over. And, it seems you most often
post about either being with a new guy or losing a guy, as if that's the
most important thing in your life. Maybe as an overweight woman you
feel you have to prove your attractiveness by letting us all know when
you have a boyfriend, and then when the relationship falls apart you
have to let us know it was all _his_ fault so we don't think any less of
you. Abusive, manipulative [censored] are attracted to weak, insecure
women, Jaime. But you get so wrapped up in your image that you don't
want anyone to see that you're weak, so you won't even admit it to
yourself. Weak and insecure are not insults, they're not moral
judgments, they're simply temporary states of mind which can be remedied
in many different ways. Getting a new boyfriend, even a good one, is not
one of the ways. It derails your focus onto someone else, when it needs
to be on yourself. Think of all the things your perfect man would say
to you to help support you, all the things he would say to make you feel
valued and beautiful and important, and start saying them to yourself,
and start believing them.

Luna, that is some of the best and insightful advice I have seen given to
someone.

"JC Der Koenig" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Now if you'll just move back to France and have a nuke fall on Paris...
"Marengo" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Now if you would just leave, you evil [censored]...

Feeeeeel the looooooooove....

HG
laughing

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<[email hidden]>,

Zoe' don'tspam@don'tspam.com said:

"Luna" <> wrote in message

Quoted message said:

Quoted message said:

I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in
any
other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much happiness
in
the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,
Jaime

Huh. Yeah, you've said some mean things sometimes, but so have a lot of
people in here, and I don't think that's what most of the critiques
directed at you are actually about. I don't think anyone here has
actually been hurt by you. It's more that people get fatigued with
hearing that you're on track to make positive changes in your life, and
then it all falls apart. Over and over. And, it seems you most often
post about either being with a new guy or losing a guy, as if that's the
most important thing in your life. Maybe as an overweight woman you
feel you have to prove your attractiveness by letting us all know when
you have a boyfriend, and then when the relationship falls apart you
have to let us know it was all _his_ fault so we don't think any less of
you. Abusive, manipulative [censored] are attracted to weak, insecure
women, Jaime. But you get so wrapped up in your image that you don't
want anyone to see that you're weak, so you won't even admit it to
yourself. Weak and insecure are not insults, they're not moral
judgments, they're simply temporary states of mind which can be remedied
in many different ways. Getting a new boyfriend, even a good one, is not
one of the ways. It derails your focus onto someone else, when it needs
to be on yourself. Think of all the things your perfect man would say
to you to help support you, all the things he would say to make you feel
valued and beautiful and important, and start saying them to yourself,
and start believing them.

Luna, that is some of the best and insightful advice I have seen given to
someone.

Thanks. It kind of helps that I have my own inner Jaime I have to
struggle against. I think I'm winning the battle, but in the rather
drastic way of not dating at all, going on three years now. Having a
boyfriend is a bit like eating pasta: you can't imagine your life
without it, but the longer you go without it the more you wonder why you
ever liked it so much. I think I'd like to date again, one day, but
every time I seriously think about the amount of effort entailed all
these other things I need to do and would rather be doing pop into my
head. To the outside world my life may seem rather sad and lonely,
since it consists of basically either working, or hanging out at home.
But, I'm friends with my coworkers at both of my jobs, so essentially I
get paid to hang out with people I'd chose to hang out with for free
anyway. And, I work with kids at one job, and customers at another, so
"alone time" is really nice.

Quoting Luna:

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Jaime said:

I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in any
other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much happiness in
the New Year and in life.
I'm unsubscribing now,

Huh. Yeah, you've said some mean things sometimes, but so have a lot of
people in here, and I don't think that's what most of the critiques
directed at you are actually about. I don't think anyone here has
actually been hurt by you. It's more that people get fatigued with
hearing that you're on track to make positive changes in your life, and
then it all falls apart. Over and over. And, it seems you most often
post about either being with a new guy or losing a guy, as if that's the
most important thing in your life. Maybe as an overweight woman you
feel you have to prove your attractiveness by letting us all know when
you have a boyfriend, and then when the relationship falls apart you
have to let us know it was all _his_ fault so we don't think any less of
you. Abusive, manipulative [censored] are attracted to weak, insecure
women, Jaime. But you get so wrapped up in your image that you don't
want anyone to see that you're weak, so you won't even admit it to
yourself. Weak and insecure are not insults, they're not moral
judgments, they're simply temporary states of mind which can be remedied
in many different ways. Getting a new boyfriend, even a good one, is not
one of the ways. It derails your focus onto someone else, when it needs
to be on yourself. Think of all the things your perfect man would say
to you to help support you, all the things he would say to make you feel
valued and beautiful and important, and start saying them to yourself,
and start believing them.

That was just perfect on so many levels.

I heart you. You get it.

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Now if you would just leave, you evil [censored]...

You had to work on that, didn't you?
I'm not leaving though. I think I'll stay around longer just to annoy you. I
will probably even change my e-mail often to get around you blocking my
posts.

Happy trails,
Gina

"Luna" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Zoe' don'tspam@don'tspam.com said:

"Luna" <> wrote in message

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> I've read everything everyone has said about me..the good and the bad.
> You know, I *am* honestly sorry for whomever I've hurt in here (or in
> any
> other newsgroup) with anything horrible I have said to anyone.
> With that said, I wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and much
> happiness
> in
> the New Year and in life.
> I'm unsubscribing now,
> Jaime

Huh. Yeah, you've said some mean things sometimes, but so have a lot
of
people in here, and I don't think that's what most of the critiques
directed at you are actually about. I don't think anyone here has
actually been hurt by you. It's more that people get fatigued with
hearing that you're on track to make positive changes in your life, and
then it all falls apart. Over and over. And, it seems you most often
post about either being with a new guy or losing a guy, as if that's
the
most important thing in your life. Maybe as an overweight woman you
feel you have to prove your attractiveness by letting us all know when
you have a boyfriend, and then when the relationship falls apart you
have to let us know it was all _his_ fault so we don't think any less
of
you. Abusive, manipulative [censored] are attracted to weak, insecure
women, Jaime. But you get so wrapped up in your image that you don't
want anyone to see that you're weak, so you won't even admit it to
yourself. Weak and insecure are not insults, they're not moral
judgments, they're simply temporary states of mind which can be
remedied
in many different ways. Getting a new boyfriend, even a good one, is
not
one of the ways. It derails your focus onto someone else, when it
needs
to be on yourself. Think of all the things your perfect man would say
to you to help support you, all the things he would say to make you
feel
valued and beautiful and important, and start saying them to yourself,
and start believing them.

Luna, that is some of the best and insightful advice I have seen given to
someone.

Thanks. It kind of helps that I have my own inner Jaime I have to
struggle against. I think I'm winning the battle, but in the rather
drastic way of not dating at all, going on three years now. Having a
boyfriend is a bit like eating pasta: you can't imagine your life
without it, but the longer you go without it the more you wonder why you
ever liked it so much. I think I'd like to date again, one day, but
every time I seriously think about the amount of effort entailed all
these other things I need to do and would rather be doing pop into my
head. To the outside world my life may seem rather sad and lonely,
since it consists of basically either working, or hanging out at home.
But, I'm friends with my coworkers at both of my jobs, so essentially I
get paid to hang out with people I'd chose to hang out with for free
anyway. And, I work with kids at one job, and customers at another, so
"alone time" is really nice.

You are preaching to the choir. I also decided to take a break from dating.
It's amazing how much more time I have and more money!!! No more running to
the mall to buy a new outfit, of course you then need the matching shoes and
purse. I figured by summer I'll be ready to date again. It's a long enough
time period that I may have forgotten why I stopped to begin with.