Sharon said:Yep, I know. But I read the booklet about biologics
(embrel) she gave
me. Possible side effects include cancer. I think I'll
take my chances with the GI bleeding,
thankyouverymuch.
Fair enough. If I were your doctor, I'd just write that in
your chart, and that'd be that. After the usual discussion
regarding probabilties and such. ;-)
Quoted message said:She's not paying any attention to my history, only what
she sees today. (This is a new doctor.) I have some
permanent joint damage from flareups I had when I was a
kid. She seems to be looking at these as if they were
current or ongoing damage.
You should let her know your history, of course, if you
haven't done so already.
Quoted message said:So daily use of Ultraset is better for me than daily
use of NSAIDS?
I wouldn't say that. For one thing, Ultracet is pretty
expensive. NSAIDs (most of them, anyway) are
relatively cheap. Both have risks. Neither is "better"
or "worse" overall.
Quoted message said:I'm of the camp that you don't throw drugs at every
little problem.
Well, neither am I. However, medications certainly have
their place, and in this day and age, many patients (not
necessarily you) expect a quick fix for every ailment.
Whether that's appropriate or whether we should indulge them
is subject to debate.
Quoted message said:But then when a patient like me who comes along who
doesn't want to take a daily pill cocktail, they push it
on us too.
Depends on the person and the pill(s). For my diabetics, for
example, I most certainly "push" a baby aspirin, an ACE
inhibitor, and...in many cases...a statin and metformin. For
my cardiac patients, I "push" aspirin, beta blockers,
statins, etc. There is clear evidence that these medications
provide substantial benefits that far outweigh their risks.
They have literally become the standard of care, and to
*not* push them is essentially malpractice. Patients can
protest, but I do my best to educate them as to why I think
they need the medication(s), and if they continue to refuse,
I document their refusal and the reason for it in their
chart. This is what's known as "covering my ass." Sad, but
unfortunately necessary in these times. You can bet that
I'll keep bringing them up from time to time, too. Just like
smoking cessation.
Quoted message said:Quoted message said:Quoted message said:Why is it that doctors still seem to be dictators who
dismiss my concerns and questions?
Dunno...did you ask your doctors that question?
I would love to, but wouldn't that make them instantly
defensive?
Depends how you phrase the question, I suppose. ;-)
Quoted message said:I'm still in the search for a GP for regular physicals
and such.
I recommend a board-certified family physician. (Hint:
there's no such thing as "GPs" anymore, at least not in the
U.S. of A.)
Quoted message said:Sometimes I wonder if I can walk into the exam room and
start the conversation by saying I'm looking for a primary
care physician who will be a partner in my health care,
who will listen to my concerns and treat me as an
intelligent adult.
I'd definitely mention the "partner in health care" part
(music to my ears, personally). I'd leave out the part about
listening and treating you as an adult, unless your doctor
doesn't. Saying something like that beforehand is like
stamping a scarlet "D" ("difficult"😉 on your forehead. ;-)
Quoted message said:I've obviously had bad experiences
with doctors in the past, so I'm wary.
Fair enough, but keep in mind that I'm also going to be wary
of a patient who has a long history of not being satisfied
with any of their doctors or treatments. However, I'm
usually willing to give such patients the benefit of the
doubt, knowing that the real bad apples will show their true
colors eventually. Remember, doctors *can* fire their
patients. They just have to do it correctly.
Quoted message said:Years ago a GP told me to get a mammogram and I told
her that I'd heard it was painful so I felt unsure
about it.
Screening tests aren't always painless, but they're
certainly tolerable. Few things are more painful than being
told you have metastatic cancer, and early detection can go
a long way toward preventing that in the case of breast CA.
There are ways to make a mammogram more comfortable
(choosing a good mammography center, for one). It's never
going to be something you look forward to, but don't risk
dying because of the fear of a little discomfort. It's
probably not as bad as you think, anyway. As for "horror
stories" from other people, *never* let these dissuade you
from doing the right thing for yourself. One person's
experience is just that; *one* person's experience. It
doesn't have to be yours.
Quoted message said:The WRONG answer and the one she actually gave me was "oh,
that's just what people say to annoy me" and then walk out
the door.
I agree. That's totally inappropriate.
Quoted message said:BTW, Anon thank you very much. I wish I could have this
conversation with my doctors!
You can. Just remember that the doctor-patient relationship
is a very unique thing. You're not a "customer" (a purchaser
of goods or services), and they're not a "provider"
(regardless of the HMO industry's adoption of that
terminology). If you treat your doctor as a partner, I think
you'll find that they will respond in kind. That doesn't
mean being overly solicitous or inappropriately familiar,
however. You don't have to be friends with your doctor in
order to have a good doctor-patient relationship. All you
need is a common goal: your good health. Most doctors
appreciate patients who take an active role in their health
rather than a passive one ("Fix me!"😉, so do your part, and
let your doctor do theirs. Also, if you want your doctor to
be flexible, don't *you* be rigid. "I'm not taking that
medicine" is rigid; "I'm not getting a mammogram because it
hurts" is rigid. Instead, say something like "I'm concerned
about the possible side effects of this medicine", or "I'm
afraid the mammogram will be painful". I virtually guarantee
your doctor will respond better if you at least indicate
that a subject is open to discussion.
Quoted message said:(I know, I'm *assuming* you're a doctor.)
I'm a board-certified family physician.
Good luck!