"Skinny" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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Quoted message said:FOB said:Oh, please, telling her to wear padding under a close fitting dress like
hers is NOT helpful!
'Is helpful' is one thing -- 'trying to be helpful' is another. Maybe she
thought we were being sarcastic. I hadn't seen the dress, I didn't care
quite enough to follow the link. Still, as Crafting Mom said, someone
experienced in theatre costumes could make an actress look the right size
for any dress, no matter how close-fitting it was. (And Dropped28 said it
was a 'NY' wedding, plenty of costumers in NY.)
Jbuch worded his/her suggestion very gently and politely. I think it is
obvious he/she was sincere.
Imo the choices and intelligence of the bridesmaid would be something like
this:
Most intelligent: Recuse* as bridesmaid. Try to find someone else to wear
the dress; if not, then tell the bride to expect one less bridesmaid.
That's
what a person would do if they had an injury or something. Drop out,
forget
it, and get a life.
It's my husban't brother's wedding, not some gal I hardly know from
college - it's family! You don't drop out. Unless you die.
Quoted message said:
Intelligent: Take best guess as to future size, get a dressmaker working
on
alterations well in advance. If the weight turns out not to match, then
drop
out or proceed to other alternatives.
I don't have "well in advance", I have 5 weeks. You think it would be
intelligent to drop out of your good friend & family's wedding last minute.
What a lovely, thoughtful person you are.
Quoted message said:Stupid: Endanger future health by changing the diet. This might not even
work, she might still turn out not to fit the dress: she might gain
instead
of holding steady.
I would be off "active weight loss" and on a maintenance plan for max 5
weeks. Sounds deadly - especially at the life threatening 146lbs I am these
days
Quoted message said:
Less stupid: Get a costumer to make a corset or something with several
layers of lining material: fine tune it during the last few days.
This is 'stupid' in that it spends time and money, but it's a lot less
stupid than changing the diet and staying fat.
It's just plain stupid. I think I'd rather wear a dress that's a 1/2 size
too big than pad it to look fatter and be uncomfortable and hot all night.
This is an affair that will start around 2 or 3 at the bride's house for
pix, 4:00 wedding, after that off to a mansion and gardens for photos, then
cocktail hour at 7, reception at 8. I will also have my 2 young children on
and off of me all day. I will probably be in this dress for 12 hours.
Quoted message said:
Wearing a pad of fat for a month and maybe NEVER getting it off, is more
stupid than wearing a padded bra and corset for one night.
I am not going onto maintenance for this. I will continue on as I have and
get the dress altered as late as I can. I mentioned this very early in the
thread yet the useless suggestions are pouring in and everyone is attacking
me for trying to not be selfish. Your best idea is "drop out" . Very nice.
Quoted message said:
I'd never have suggested the padded corset to anyone who wasn't ALREADY
thinking of keeping the fat pad, maybe keeping it forever.
Skinny
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you're just cranky because I thought your idea was a stinker. I do like your
doomsday [censored] about "you're gonna be fat
forrrreeevvvvvverrrrrr...mwuhahaaaaa" LOL! Who's the drama queen here,
Miss/Mr Skinny?
JoAnna
176/146/120
