Freaking out!!! Help!! (long)

"Robyn Rosenthal" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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What I would do is find out exactly how much they can take the dress in &
how
much it is going to cost.

If it is really as expensive as you think it will be to alter it enough,
order
it in a size 6 or and 8 and sell the bigger one.

At least that's what i would do🙂Robyn

no time to order a 3rd dress - it took 2 months each time and there is only
about 5-6 weeks left

Your health is more important than a dress or a wedding! Health lasts
forever, if you drop out of a diet that's working, you may be fat for years
yet.

Ask the bride what she would prefer: you HEALTHY in a dress tucked together
with safety pins, or you HEALTHY in the audience and someone else wearing
the dress.

If she says she wants you UNHEALTHY in the dress, skip the wedding. 🙂

Auntie Lonelyhearts
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Dropped 28 said:

I am going to be a bridesmaid at the beginning of december. We ordered

our

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dresses in June, before I went LC but when I knew I would be soon. So

when I

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ordered my dress I made sure I could return it and re-order a different

size

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in time.

So the dress was in in august and the 14 was huge so we ordered the 12,
well - I should've ordered the 10 because I just picked up my new dress

and

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it's too big. i have to have it totally altered and remade into a 10.

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It'll
probably cost as much as the damn dress and I am broke right now!!

Are you sure they sent a 12? Try on some dresses from a rack, see if those
12s fit you. If they sent the wrong size or their 12 isn't standard, then
make them Fedex you something with the right waist-size, at their expense.

Who is going to be looking that close at a bridesmaid's dress anyway? Who
is going to be counting the safety pins? 🙂

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It is a wonderful thing. Is it such a burden to apologize to the other
wedding guests for losing weight? I say, wear the oversize dress with
pride. Think of it as showing off.

"Dropped 28" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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I am going to be a bridesmaid at the beginning of december. We ordered our
dresses in June, before I went LC but when I knew I would be soon. So when

I

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ordered my dress I made sure I could return it and re-order a different

size

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in time.

So the dress was in in august and the 14 was huge so we ordered the 12,
well - I should've ordered the 10 because I just picked up my new dress

and

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it's too big. i have to have it totally altered and remade into a 10.

It'll

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probably cost as much as the damn dress and I am broke right now!!

My dilemma is this:

Should I just try to stop losing for the next month and then restart after
the wedding? Inside I am screaming NOOOOOOOO and I am scared I won't be

able

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to get back on track or that If I loosen up a bit I will start to slide. I
have 26lbs left to go and I don't want to stop now!!

I am thinking that I will keep losing and wait as long as possible to have
the dress altered, I am worried they won't be able to make it fit me well
enough.

Really - Halloween, Thanksgiving and the family birthdays that are coming

up

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do not make this an appealing time for me to want to give up. I know I can
go to a maintenance plan - I dunno I'm just freaking out!!

One thought was to maybe add Oatmeal at breakfast, have my salads with
chicken for lunch, dinner as usual, maybe add a piece of fruit - but I am
scared I'll start craving or lose my discipline...

Wahhhhhhhh. i know I am ranting - sorry. it's just making me nuts!!
JoAnna
176/146/120

Wear it, one size too big isn't going to be noticable anyway. GAWD!
how I wish I owned something that was too big for me LOL!!!

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"Robyn Rosenthal" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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What I would do is find out exactly how much they can take the dress in &
how
much it is going to cost.

If it is really as expensive as you think it will be to alter it enough,
order
it in a size 6 or and 8 and sell the bigger one.

At least that's what i would do🙂Robyn

no time to order a 3rd dress - it took 2 months each time and there is only
about 5-6 weeks left

Bummer. I didn't realize that it took 8 weeks. My duaghter in law ordered her
bridesmaids' dresses from them & I didn't remember it taking that long.

We also had issues with a bridesmaid losing weight after she ordered her dress.

I guess your only option is to just have it taken in as much as possible &
stand up straight & look gorgeous🙂

I looked at the picture and it is a pretty dress, hopefully they can take it in
enough so that you are happy with the way that you look.

Robyn

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"Robyn Rosenthal" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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What I would do is find out exactly how much they can take the dress in
&
how
much it is going to cost.

If it is really as expensive as you think it will be to alter it enough,
order
it in a size 6 or and 8 and sell the bigger one.

At least that's what i would do🙂Robyn

no time to order a 3rd dress - it took 2 months each time and there is
only
about 5-6 weeks left

Bummer. I didn't realize that it took 8 weeks. My duaghter in law ordered
her
bridesmaids' dresses from them & I didn't remember it taking that long.

We also had issues with a bridesmaid losing weight after she ordered her
dress.

I guess your only option is to just have it taken in as much as possible &
stand up straight & look gorgeous🙂

I looked at the picture and it is a pretty dress, hopefully they can take
it in
enough so that you are happy with the way that you look.

Robyn

It's funny - the girls are all wearing different styles but the same color.
i chose my style because it had belly camoflage!! I didn't know I'd be 30lbs
down or more bythe wedding!

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It is a wonderful thing. Is it such a burden to apologize to the other
wedding guests for losing weight? I say, wear the oversize dress with
pride. Think of it as showing off.

"Dropped 28" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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I am going to be a bridesmaid at the beginning of december. We ordered
our
dresses in June, before I went LC but when I knew I would be soon. So
when

I

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ordered my dress I made sure I could return it and re-order a different

size

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in time.

So the dress was in in august and the 14 was huge so we ordered the 12,
well - I should've ordered the 10 because I just picked up my new dress

and

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it's too big. i have to have it totally altered and remade into a 10.

It'll

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probably cost as much as the damn dress and I am broke right now!!

My dilemma is this:

Should I just try to stop losing for the next month and then restart
after
the wedding? Inside I am screaming NOOOOOOOO and I am scared I won't be

able

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to get back on track or that If I loosen up a bit I will start to
slide. I
have 26lbs left to go and I don't want to stop now!!

I am thinking that I will keep losing and wait as long as possible to
have
the dress altered, I am worried they won't be able to make it fit me
well
enough.

Really - Halloween, Thanksgiving and the family birthdays that are
coming

up

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do not make this an appealing time for me to want to give up. I know I
can
go to a maintenance plan - I dunno I'm just freaking out!!

One thought was to maybe add Oatmeal at breakfast, have my salads with
chicken for lunch, dinner as usual, maybe add a piece of fruit - but I
am
scared I'll start craving or lose my discipline...

Wahhhhhhhh. i know I am ranting - sorry. it's just making me nuts!!
JoAnna
176/146/120

Wear it, one size too big isn't going to be noticable anyway. GAWD!

I does though - it looks like a sack right now.

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how I wish I owned something that was too big for me LOL!!!

hey - i hear ya! It was only this summer I was in an 18 and now I am in a
10. I never had anything to wear and I always felt and looked rotten!!
Thisis one of those problems that I must say I am lucky to have - it is more
of a nuisance.

I am glad I posted though - because now I feel I can stick with the diet and
it's not selfish - i really thought I was being selfish!!

yanno...what about a matching satin ribbon tied around the waist and a
couple of antique or pretty broaches to gather it at the bodice (if
necessary)?

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It is a wonderful thing. Is it such a burden to apologize to the other
wedding guests for losing weight? I say, wear the oversize dress with
pride. Think of it as showing off.

"Dropped 28" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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> I am going to be a bridesmaid at the beginning of december. We

ordered

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> our
> dresses in June, before I went LC but when I knew I would be soon. So
> when
I
> ordered my dress I made sure I could return it and re-order a

different

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size
> in time.
>
> So the dress was in in august and the 14 was huge so we ordered the

12,

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> well - I should've ordered the 10 because I just picked up my new

dress

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and
> it's too big. i have to have it totally altered and remade into a 10.
It'll
> probably cost as much as the damn dress and I am broke right now!!
>
> My dilemma is this:
>
> Should I just try to stop losing for the next month and then restart
> after
> the wedding? Inside I am screaming NOOOOOOOO and I am scared I won't

be

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able
> to get back on track or that If I loosen up a bit I will start to
> slide. I
> have 26lbs left to go and I don't want to stop now!!
>
> I am thinking that I will keep losing and wait as long as possible to
> have
> the dress altered, I am worried they won't be able to make it fit me
> well
> enough.
>
> Really - Halloween, Thanksgiving and the family birthdays that are
> coming
up
> do not make this an appealing time for me to want to give up. I know

I

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> can
> go to a maintenance plan - I dunno I'm just freaking out!!
>
> One thought was to maybe add Oatmeal at breakfast, have my salads

with

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> chicken for lunch, dinner as usual, maybe add a piece of fruit - but

I

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> am
> scared I'll start craving or lose my discipline...
>
> Wahhhhhhhh. i know I am ranting - sorry. it's just making me nuts!!
> JoAnna
> 176/146/120
>
>

Wear it, one size too big isn't going to be noticable anyway. GAWD!

I does though - it looks like a sack right now.

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how I wish I owned something that was too big for me LOL!!!

hey - i hear ya! It was only this summer I was in an 18 and now I am in a
10. I never had anything to wear and I always felt and looked rotten!!
Thisis one of those problems that I must say I am lucky to have - it is

more

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of a nuisance.

I am glad I posted though - because now I feel I can stick with the diet

and

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it's not selfish - i really thought I was being selfish!!

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yanno...what about a matching satin ribbon tied around the waist and a
couple of antique or pretty broaches to gather it at the bodice (if
necessary)?

nope - did you see the dress? i gave the link somewhere. this is a slick NY
evening affair.

On Mon, 25 Oct 2004 14:48:53 GMT, Dropped 28 wrote:
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someone actually suggested I pad my body to make the dress fit!! ack!

Well, that would be a hell of a lot better than stopping your own weight
loss!!!! You could get a leotard and pad it out to Size 12 or whatever.

Auntie Lonelyhearts

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On Mon, 25 Oct 2004 14:48:53 GMT, Dropped 28 wrote:
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someone actually suggested I pad my body to make the dress fit!! ack!

Well, that would be a hell of a lot better than stopping your own weight
loss!!!! You could get a leotard and pad it out to Size 12 or whatever.

Auntie Lonelyhearts

yes, right - that would be comfortable and attractive - thanks for the
genius idea!!

Dropped 30 said:

yes, right - that would be comfortable and attractive - thanks for the
genius idea!!

Actors and actresses do it all the time, for roles that require much more
"fat" than you would to fit the dress....
but I understand your adverse reaction to such an idea.

--
"I'll babysit my children and my cat, but I staunchly refuse to babysit my
appetite." -Crafting Mom
* The above post is purely subjective, unless otherwise noted. Please
respond accordingly.

"Cubit" <[email hidden]> wrote in message news:<[email hidden]>...

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It is a wonderful thing. Is it such a burden to apologize to the other
wedding guests for losing weight? I say, wear the oversize dress with
pride. Think of it as showing off.

Wearing a dress that's too big isn't showing off - to me it gives the
impression of wearing a dress that just doesn't fit right! And, with
all that extra fabric, who'll be able to see the new and terrific
figure??? Heck, the OP has an absolutely fabulous new body -best to
alter the dress so it fits and shows off that new figure to it's best
advantage, I think. Save the alterations for as close to the wedding
as possible to get the best fit.

Although the OP is a bridesmaid, not the bride, she still has to do
everything in her power to look her best, FOR THE WEDDING COUPLE!!
There will be a lot of pix taken - having all the bridesmaids in well
fitting dresses and one looking like she's wearing a sack just isn't a
good thing to do, if it can be avoided.

Lee

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"Dropped 28" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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I am going to be a bridesmaid at the beginning of december. We ordered our
dresses in June, before I went LC but when I knew I would be soon. So when

I

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ordered my dress I made sure I could return it and re-order a different

size

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in time.

So the dress was in in august and the 14 was huge so we ordered the 12,
well - I should've ordered the 10 because I just picked up my new dress

and

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it's too big. i have to have it totally altered and remade into a 10.

It'll

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probably cost as much as the damn dress and I am broke right now!!

My dilemma is this:

Should I just try to stop losing for the next month and then restart after
the wedding? Inside I am screaming NOOOOOOOO and I am scared I won't be

able

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to get back on track or that If I loosen up a bit I will start to slide. I
have 26lbs left to go and I don't want to stop now!!

I am thinking that I will keep losing and wait as long as possible to have
the dress altered, I am worried they won't be able to make it fit me well
enough.

Really - Halloween, Thanksgiving and the family birthdays that are coming

up

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do not make this an appealing time for me to want to give up. I know I can
go to a maintenance plan - I dunno I'm just freaking out!!

One thought was to maybe add Oatmeal at breakfast, have my salads with
chicken for lunch, dinner as usual, maybe add a piece of fruit - but I am
scared I'll start craving or lose my discipline...

Wahhhhhhhh. i know I am ranting - sorry. it's just making me nuts!!
JoAnna
176/146/120

"Lee" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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"Cubit" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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It is a wonderful thing. Is it such a burden to apologize to the other
wedding guests for losing weight? I say, wear the oversize dress with
pride. Think of it as showing off.

Wearing a dress that's too big isn't showing off - to me it gives the
impression of wearing a dress that just doesn't fit right! And, with
all that extra fabric, who'll be able to see the new and terrific
figure??? Heck, the OP has an absolutely fabulous new body -best to
alter the dress so it fits and shows off that new figure to it's best
advantage, I think. Save the alterations for as close to the wedding
as possible to get the best fit.

Although the OP is a bridesmaid, not the bride, she still has to do
everything in her power to look her best, FOR THE WEDDING COUPLE!!
There will be a lot of pix taken - having all the bridesmaids in well
fitting dresses and one looking like she's wearing a sack just isn't a
good thing to do, if it can be avoided.

Lee

You seem to be the only one here who understands! Thanks!

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Lee wrote:
:: "Cubit" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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::: It is a wonderful thing. Is it such a burden to apologize to the
::: other wedding guests for losing weight? I say, wear the oversize
::: dress with pride. Think of it as showing off.
::
:: Wearing a dress that's too big isn't showing off - to me it gives the
:: impression of wearing a dress that just doesn't fit right! And, with
:: all that extra fabric, who'll be able to see the new and terrific
:: figure??? Heck, the OP has an absolutely fabulous new body -best to
:: alter the dress so it fits and shows off that new figure to it's best
:: advantage, I think. Save the alterations for as close to the wedding
:: as possible to get the best fit.
::
:: Although the OP is a bridesmaid, not the bride, she still has to do
:: everything in her power to look her best, FOR THE WEDDING COUPLE!!
:: There will be a lot of pix taken - having all the bridesmaids in well
:: fitting dresses and one looking like she's wearing a sack just isn't
:: a
:: good thing to do, if it can be avoided.

ain't no way that lovely dress will ever look like a sack

I'm starting to think you like ladies in red ;o)

Lee wrote:
:: "Cubit" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
:: news:<[email hidden]>...
::: It is a wonderful thing. Is it such a burden to apologize to the
::: other wedding guests for losing weight? I say, wear the oversize
::: dress with pride. Think of it as showing off.
::
:: Wearing a dress that's too big isn't showing off - to me it gives the
:: impression of wearing a dress that just doesn't fit right! And, with
:: all that extra fabric, who'll be able to see the new and terrific
:: figure??? Heck, the OP has an absolutely fabulous new body -best to
:: alter the dress so it fits and shows off that new figure to it's best
:: advantage, I think. Save the alterations for as close to the wedding
:: as possible to get the best fit.
::
:: Although the OP is a bridesmaid, not the bride, she still has to do
:: everything in her power to look her best, FOR THE WEDDING COUPLE!!
:: There will be a lot of pix taken - having all the bridesmaids in well
:: fitting dresses and one looking like she's wearing a sack just isn't
:: a
:: good thing to do, if it can be avoided.

ain't no way that lovely dress will ever look like a sack.

::
:: Lee
:::
::: "Dropped 28" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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:::: I am going to be a bridesmaid at the beginning of december. We
:::: ordered our dresses in June, before I went LC but when I knew I
:::: would be soon. So when
::: I
:::: ordered my dress I made sure I could return it and re-order a
:::: different
::: size
:::: in time.
::::
:::: So the dress was in in august and the 14 was huge so we ordered
:::: the 12, well - I should've ordered the 10 because I just picked up
:::: my new dress
::: and
:::: it's too big. i have to have it totally altered and remade into a
:::: 10.
::: It'll
:::: probably cost as much as the damn dress and I am broke right now!!
::::
:::: My dilemma is this:
::::
:::: Should I just try to stop losing for the next month and then
:::: restart after the wedding? Inside I am screaming NOOOOOOOO and I
:::: am scared I won't be
::: able
:::: to get back on track or that If I loosen up a bit I will start to
:::: slide. I have 26lbs left to go and I don't want to stop now!!
::::
:::: I am thinking that I will keep losing and wait as long as possible
:::: to have the dress altered, I am worried they won't be able to make
:::: it fit me well enough.
::::
:::: Really - Halloween, Thanksgiving and the family birthdays that are
:::: coming
::: up
:::: do not make this an appealing time for me to want to give up. I
:::: know I can go to a maintenance plan - I dunno I'm just freaking
:::: out!!
::::
:::: One thought was to maybe add Oatmeal at breakfast, have my salads
:::: with chicken for lunch, dinner as usual, maybe add a piece of
:::: fruit - but I am scared I'll start craving or lose my discipline...
::::
:::: Wahhhhhhhh. i know I am ranting - sorry. it's just making me nuts!!
:::: JoAnna
:::: 176/146/120

Dropped 30 wrote:
:: "Roger Zoul" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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::: Lee wrote:
::::: "Cubit" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
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:::::: It is a wonderful thing. Is it such a burden to apologize to the
:::::: other wedding guests for losing weight? I say, wear the oversize
:::::: dress with pride. Think of it as showing off.
:::::
::::: Wearing a dress that's too big isn't showing off - to me it gives
::::: the impression of wearing a dress that just doesn't fit right!
::::: And, with all that extra fabric, who'll be able to see the new
::::: and terrific figure??? Heck, the OP has an absolutely fabulous
::::: new body -best to alter the dress so it fits and shows off that
::::: new figure to it's best advantage, I think. Save the alterations
::::: for as close to the wedding as possible to get the best fit.
:::::
::::: Although the OP is a bridesmaid, not the bride, she still has to
::::: do everything in her power to look her best, FOR THE WEDDING
::::: COUPLE!! There will be a lot of pix taken - having all the
::::: bridesmaids in well fitting dresses and one looking like she's
::::: wearing a sack just isn't a
::::: good thing to do, if it can be avoided.
:::
::: ain't no way that lovely dress will ever look like a sack
::
:: I'm starting to think you like ladies in red ;o)

Absolutely!

If a too big dress is your biggest problem I want to have your problems.

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If a too big dress is your biggest problem I want to have your problems.

yes - i think i said that it's not a bad position to be in. it is a PITA
though!

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If a too big dress is your biggest problem I want to have your problems.

I do as well. I never acted like this when I found out the results of my
last EKG test and found out I have had an undiagnosed heart attack.

In fact I was quite calm and just thought...okay..now what?

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If a too big dress is your biggest problem I want to have your problems.

I do as well. I never acted like this when I found out the results of my
last EKG test and found out I have had an undiagnosed heart attack.

In fact I was quite calm and just thought...okay..now what?

so what are ya saying?