Elisa Francesca Roselli said:The more personal reason is that I'm
a very extreme introvert (right off the scales INTP on the Meyers Briggs) and
absolutely not a "mixer". If I don't have an established social context for an
event - my job, one of my old schools, a conference on a point of interest, a
summer course, I stay alone the whole time.
Yeah, it can be very very difficult for some people to interact with
strangers in real life. (I'm one of those who finds it difficult, so I
know what you mean.) I don't have any wisdom to share, unfortunately.
As I get older, I can see more clearly some of the ways in which my own
introversion shoots me in the foot socially, but that doesn't make it
any easier to overcome it.
Going off on a tangent -- introversion isn't defined so much by social
skills or how much time you like to spend with other people as much as
it is by the manner in which you recharge your emotional batteries. I'm
not questioning that you're an introvert, just going off on a tangent
here. Introverts recharge by spending time alone or with close loved
ones; extroverts recharge by spending time with other people. At a
party, for example, the introvert can be the life of the party but will
leave drained and wanting to spend some time quietly alone or with a
significant other. An extrovert can be the life of the party and will
leave charged up and ready for another party.
In our house, we get some friction sometimes because all of us are
introverts except my youngest son, who's very extroverted. We come back
from some outing or other, and the rest of us will want to be quiet and
chill out, and there he is, charged up, chattering away like a magpie,
and trying to liven things up. *sigh* It's a good thing we love him. :-)
-km
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