Mon said:It is probably very unlikly that anyone will read this post since the thread was almost a year ago but I felt that I needed to add just one more item to this descussion.
While searching for an article about this accident I came across this post. It brought me to tears. I understand that most of the comments were made by close friends to Joseph but for one moment please stop to think about the other side.
As a friend of Jessica, seeing what was written about her
"A GIRL AND HER BOYFRIEND CYCLING HOME AFTER A PARTY AT 4.45AM ON A NARROW ROAD WITH NO STREET LIGHTS, NO LIGHTS ON THE BIKE AND A CONFIRMED TOXICOLOGY REPORT OF THE CYCLYIST THAT WOULD FIT A MARDI GRAS ATTENDEE YET THE DRIVER HAS BEEN CHARGED??"
It was firstly not a true statement and do you really think that saying "toxicology report that would fit a mardi gras attendee" is really something that needed to be said. Have some kind of respect for the friends and family of Jessica. 2 years on and the pain is still as stong as it was that day!
You cannot just decide that you will talk about someone who you didn't know and make comments which quiet obviously will hurt the people she was close to. Knowing her changed my life and a lot of other people. Nobody is perfect.. It could have been anyone that morning... It is not a straight forward case of "oh she is a young girl who had been drinking so therefore she was stupid for being there... poor guy who hit her"
You went on to say that what a kind man he was for pleading guilty to save the family been dragged through court;
* The comments made in the thread didn't spare any of her friends and family who happened to read it!
* Her family and friends were dragged through court it was not an open and shut case and it should not be spoken about as if it was! it went on for over a year!
* He did not plead guilt for a YEAR so I am sorry when you say that he is a good man for doing so... why did it take him so long?
Sober or not I dont understand how you can say that he didn't realise he hit a person! Have you ever hit a pot hole or an animal? You know when you have hit something and if he was sober how could he not have realised that he hit a person and a bike?
It is not a narrow road.. and yes it was dark and it was a combination of factors which lead to what happened but to insult her memory the way in which you quite clearly did was a low act in itself.
One side of the story told in this thread is that he stopped to check what he hit! The other side from the boy who was riding with Jess says that he did not stop at all so unless you were there you cannot decide how it happened.
I can understand that Joseph would be living with his guilt as anyone who has been involved in such a terrible accident would but Jessica's friends and family also have to deal with the loss of a daughter, sister, girlfriend and friend! She was an amazing person who everyone loved the minute they met her so making her out to be some stupid drunk teenager is not a fair or right thing to do.
I was 19 when I woke up one sunday morning and thought what a great day to go to the beach! When sitting on the lounge having breakfast I recieved a phone call which changed my world forever and it has not been the same since. Losing anyone is hard but when you are only 18-19 its the last phone call you expect to recieve.
People say Rest In Peace so please let her do that! does it make you feel better to make it out to be her fault? He is not innocent that is why he pleaded guilty! She was not innocent! it was an accident but... at the end of the day he didn't stop he kept driving... So when you say that he did a kind thing and saved her family pain... Stop and think first! How would you feel if it was your daughter.. sister.. friend... Nothing is Black and White and there are always 2 sides to every story!
I completely understand both sides to this, and no words will change what happened. However, This would of been adviodable if there had been lights and vests, a reflective vest makes you been seen for a fair distance, i have had close calls myself with lorrys and other vechiles transporting a trailer etc. It was only due to the vest and lights i am here today.
I can understand the grief inwhich you are going through, sunday morning i had a phone call saying a family member had been killed, 2 months before that i atteneded a funeral for a very close friend, he had been hit by a car and was left to die.
In many cases i would say all the blame is on the driver, but it is not, infact i feel sorry for the driver to have gone through all of this, especially as he has taken the blame for someone elses mistake.
They were intoxicated, had no reflective gear, and no lights, in this case the driver should have not been charged, instead freed, and the duo to have been charged instead.
I have no respect for people like this, who put other cylists to shame, whether dead or alive, if it is their fault, and they are alive, admit it. If they have passed on, leave the innocent alone!
In anycase, my thoughts go out to the family of Jessica, and a sorrow for the driver to take the blame for something he did not cause.
NJ