JC Der Koenig said:The first thing is to lose the excuses.
Yes, it is interesting to note the number of people who immediately
follow any admission of weight gain or existing high weight with a
series of excuses. My canary died, my bus was late, my cat threw up a
furball. The excuses range from sad (if genuine) to totally ridiculous.
Normal weight people have just as much stress, drama, and trauma in
their lives, so it can't be the reason for the weight gain.
If their excuses were valid for their most recent gain, then they will
allow them to excuse any subsequent weight gain. They don't see that
excuses are self defeating, that until they say, I am fat because I
didn't do what was necessary to avoid becoming fat, that they have no
chance of changing their situation. When I read posts from people on the
diet groups who admit that they have been trying to lose weight for many
years, some claim all of their lives, I wonder why they bother to
continue. It is not the wrong diet that is their problem, it is the
person staring back from the mirror. They can change thier diets as many
times as they like, but until they change that person in the mirror,
they are going to remain fat losers.
The fat acceptance groups are a negative thing for overweight people,
they make not the slightest difference to the attitudes of those who are
not fat, but give the fat people yet another place to hide from the
reality that they have created, or at least have allowed to engulf them.
Bill