Colorado Bicycler said:I guess it sort of depends on what you mean by "change."
In two weeks, at age 65, I will be doing my first vocal solo in our
church "talent show." Never done ANYTHING like this in my entire
life.
Quoted message said:I started voice lessons about 3 months ago, and have thoroughly
enjoyed the "change."
I started bicycling seriously at age 58, and in 3 months, did the
"Ride
Quoted message said:the Rockies." Another significant change for me.
I just finished losing about 20 pounds - another "change" for me, and
have about 10 pounds to go.
I started working out seriously with free weights about 15 years ago,
but just added some new routines this last two months. Another
"change."
I am in the process of studying for my personal certification with
ACE
Quoted message said:in being a "personal trainer" and hope to work with seniors in that
field. One more change, at least hoped for.
I am starting to lead a group of "seniors" on bicycling and walking
trips on Monday, which I organized.
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I have had a major heart disruption (atrial fibrillation) this year,
which was certainly a change, although very undesired. But, I will
be
Quoted message said:going to San Francisco in August for a medical procedure to hopefully
correct this problem. In the meantime, I am still bicycling and
walking 3-5 miles per day.
I started back into teaching middle school at the age of 61 and
taught
Quoted message said:successfully for four years. A rather major change.
I moved from our home of 26 years 2.5 years ago to a brand new home.
A major change.
I am now "officially" retired, a whoppingly major change. But I am
not
Quoted message said:yet "done."
And, I could go on and on. New bicycle and routes, a major group of
new friends in our church.
So, I still want to know, just when is that magic age when you stop
changing?
Perhaps you define "change" in a different way? I define it
behaviorally - to me, change is reflected in what you do.
I think I am defining change in a different way. I have made alot of
changes to my life over the years and I am proud of that. I am
speaking of the changes that happen to you through experience (good and
bad). "Life changes".
I agree that there are many things we can change in our life. We can
also change our attitude. The one thing we cannot change is the past,
we can only accept it and move on. But each one of those experiences I
speak of, changes you in ways you really have no control over. If I
can't trust people, is it because I made the choice to be that way????
Or do you think I came to that place through some difficult
experiences? We all can change, but sometimes it is definately not our
choice to change.....we just do. We can't live and not be changed by
our experiences. We move on, but the past is always there, sometimes
hidden in the way we behave in a given a circumstance. I've discussed
this with about 6 therapists. I usually quit after 3 sessions. I can't
stand paying someone so I can whine about the past.
I've changed my life for the better in business, going back to school,
exercising, buying a bike and riding it, going to the gym, being
totally loyal to the people I love, doing my best to be a good
mother.......but I do "not" think I am capable, because of my
background....of trusting people. I've tried. Remember that song.
"ONCE BITTEN TWICE SHY BABE"......Well, if you get bitten
enough.....you stop putting yourself at risk. You start to wear armour.
My armour is my sense of humor. I use it as a shield. I do make, and
have made, many changes to my life......as you have done. The changes
life made "FOR" me, are alot more difficult to deal with. They seem to
stay forever...and you can't change it. If I could trust people I
would be very happy. Believe me, not trusting people, it is not
something I intentionally want. I have a fabulous life, and I am not
whining....I just know there are some parts of my being that are set
forever in stone, and will never change.
All Good Things,
Maggie