Oh how funny! I do know how frustrating it could be though, but still would be hard to control the
laughter. My brothers have no patience for the constant repitition - asking same questions over and
over, within minutes of getting an answer. I've given up trying to explain that she isn't doing it
on purpose, now just tell them she does it to pull their chains. Currently she is focused on her
glasses ... constantly tells all of us she needs new glasses, that the pair she is wearing are ones
that someone gave to her years ago. I've told her the changing eyesight is due to cataracts, not
quite ready to have anything done on them yet. Then she changes to needing to have knee replacement
surgery ... again. NOT gonna happen - will not take the risk of the anesthtic. Do I have the fun
restaurant games ahead of me? Right now mom is ok going out, and does love to go (because they don't
feed her at the home, ya know. The only meals she gets are those that she sneaks into *office
meetings* for). Yet she has put weight on, so go figure.
<g> The only problem we have at restaurants is that she needs to have the menu read to her, tells
me what she wants, then tells the waiter something else. And always complains about what she
gets. LOL But she hasn't had a bad desert yet!
That really is a shame as to the care and respect the elderly get in your nursing homes. I know I've
told you, but I do feel we got incredibly lucky. The staff where mom is, is wonderful! Appears to be
lots of hugs and genuine caring, lots of attempts at what I call ego-boosting - working on raising
mom's level of self-esteem. Why does it vary so much from home to home?
While out shopping today, I had two senior ladies get lost in the store, couldn't find the elevator
or their car. They didn't realize the store had two levels and two parking lots (both of which were
totally packed). I overheard them talking and told them to just follow me as I was heading to the
elevator. They acted so surprised that anyone would even give them the time of day ... chatted the
entire time with me, and I walked them to the door leading to the upper parking lot. Our area is
loaded with fast paced yuppies - rarely give the time of day to seniors and have no patience for
them. Help? That's a foreign concept. Heck, last year I saw a wheelchair man tip over when coming
out of his home - laid face down in the snow and ice. I was the only car to stop and try to help.
The guy told me he was bleeding and I shouldn't help ... I told him I didn't care, we had to get him
out of the snow ... at least his face. Called the police when I realized he was just too darned
heavy for me to do anything (guess it was dead weight since he couldn't assist me at all). I still
am dumbfounded that not one other person stopped ... but all didn't hesitate to slow down and gawk
as they drove past.
Joyce
Lesanne said:Yes, she had put one on, then another over it. I got her to come away by telling her they were
"mens" coats (they were). I usually walk her in the mall when it is not open yet? And she gripes
the whole way "nothing is open, this is boring, why are we here" and I tell her "for Exercise!" and
she says "I don't need exercise" then a few steps farther and we do that all again...
It is really neat taking her out to eat. She loves loves loves to go, but will do things like put
butter on her knife and lick it off, or put tartar sauce on her vegetables, or bread, and don't
even let her slow down at the desserts in a cafeteria or she will pick up two or three and carry
them. As in lift them off the plates.
One thing about our area, people really respect the elderly who are out in the community, and try
to help. I don't know why it doesn't extend to care in the nursing homes.
"Joyce" <[email hidden]> wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...
Quoted message said:Oh Lesanne, I don't know whether to laugh or to cry. My mom is bugging me
to take
Quoted message said:her Christmas shopping, not sure how you do it cuz I'm sure not looking
forward to
Quoted message said:taking her into a store. I know she will want to bring everything home,
swears
Quoted message said:she has no clothing and no food. <sigh> Was your mom putting one coat on
top of
Quoted message said:the other? hehehe guess sometimes you just gotta laugh, at least hope
you were
Quoted message said:able to later. (My frustrations always turn very humorous when I can
finally
Quoted message said:retell them ... like the missing underwear that was lovingly giftbagged to
go to
Quoted message said:my older brother)
Joyce
Lesanne said:Oh, on a lighter note, Ma told me to "drop dead" out of the blue in a
store
Quoted message said:Quoted message said:yesterday. She is finally exhibiting some of the meanness I have heard about. I was trying to
get her to walk, and she wanted to put on the jackets she was standing near. As in two or three
of them.
"Fred" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
"]news:[email hidden]...
> You have pictured the idylic nature of winter camping - very pure and very quiet.
>
> I hope you can bring some of that serenity to whatever is happening. Vacations from caregiving
> are mandatory - I recall spelling my dad for a week and did not know how he did it as long as
> he did. It was also when my sister and I made the decision that dad needed full relief or he
> would die first - it was that simple. Best
>
> On Wed, 03 Dec 2003 13:17:50 GMT, "Lesanne" <[email hidden]> wrote:
>
> >Oh the bliss envisioned by a mental picture of me, the tent, the
space,
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> >silence, the Lack of anyone, anywhere..... We are having some trouble
in
Quoted message said:Quoted message said:> >paradise here with my daughter that has me a bit freaked. I so want
to
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> >away from home. I gotta find some help with the home caregiving thing
so
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> >can take off once in a while, or things are going to be not good here.
> >
> >
> >"Fred" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
> >"]news:[email hidden]...
> >> Okay. Be that way. Happy camper, huh - try snow camping (G)
> >>
> >> Chaos - hope you get it under control.
> >>
> >> Fred
> >>
> >> On Tue, 02 Dec 2003 20:11:03 GMT, "Lesanne" <[email hidden]> wrote:
> >>
> >> >I don't want no blinkin gifts buddy.... Snarl. (how was that?)
you
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> >> >know of course that if I get to Jan 1, under 164 I am a total happy
> >camper?
> >> >But It would be nice to have some space. But heck, things are a
little
> >> >chaotic here in humid land, I dunno what will transpire.
> >> >
> >> >"Fred" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
> >> >"]news:[email hidden]...
> >> >> Well, this morning was not as good as hoped.
> >> >>
> >> >> But you really have a great chance in about two weeks - we have
our
Quoted message said:Quoted message said:> >> >> work "employee recognition breakfast" early the morning of WI. I
will
> >> >> be dressed in jacket, tie, slacks, etc and will have breakfast
and
Quoted message said:Quoted message said:> >> >> then head to WI! Not a great situtation unless I can sit with
300
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> >> >>
> >> >> But maybe it is time to just let you have it as I would really
hate
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> >> >> be the one to drive you to desparation. Besides, some others are
now
> >> >> giving you a run for the money.
> >> >>
> >> >> On Tue, 02 Dec 2003 12:45:52 GMT, "Lesanne"
<[email hidden]>
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> >> >>
> >> >> >Ah haha. You better be prepared to weigh in shorts I am having
a
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> >> >good
> >> >> >week over here.
> >> >> >
> >> >> >"Fred" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
> >> >> >"]news:[email hidden]...
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> On Mon, 01 Dec 2003 17:54:18 GMT, "Lesanne"
<[email hidden]>
> >> >> >> wrote:
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> >What did you do with your NEW body while you were rollin
around
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> >the
> >> >> >snow
> >> >> >> >with the OLD one? Or whats her name? would be the other
smart a
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> >> >> >to
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> Ah, the ol' "I did not wake up grumpy, I let her sleep!" (G)
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> Actually, the new body must be in pretty good shape - I
remember
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> >> >> >> this trip last year and struggling a bit more. I was
surprised
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> >how
> >> >> >> early it was when I stopped for my SECOND lunch (G) Leaving
on
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> >> >> >> trips early - one tends to snack somewhere around 10am with
the
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> >> >> >> lunch and then eat again around noon.
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> >that one. I am on a major roll this week feeling SOOOO
renewed
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> >> >> >living
> >> >> >> >through turkey day and ending up with my scale saying 159
again.
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> >am
> >> >> >gonna
> >> >> >> >be hard to beat this week, unless you kept some of your
fabulous
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> >> >> >> >loss.........
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> I do hope I can disappoint you!!! I seem to be holding
reasonably
> >> >> >> well (fingers crossed). Maybe thanksgiving and awful pies
helps!!!
> >> >> >> (G)
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> But clearly this means that I cannot weighin in full regalia.
It
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> >> >> >> be your fault as I shiver in shorts. (g)
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> >La 🙂🙂🙂
> >> >> >> >
> >> >> >> >"Fred" <[email hidden]> wrote in message
> >> >> >> >"]news:[email hidden]...
> >> >> >> >> Well, ahem, within reason. (G)
> >> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> >> Dragged the OLD body out on a snowshoe trip yesterday.
Glorious
> >in
> >> >> >> >> the mountains but the snow was definitely not my definition
of
Quoted message said:Quoted message said:> >> >> >> >> skiable.
> >> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> >> On Mon, 01 Dec 2003 19:58:06 +1300, Erin Marsh
> ><[email hidden]>
> >> >> >> >> wrote:
> >> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> >> >On Sat, 29 Nov 2003 19:34:57 -0800, Fred
> >> ><[email hidden]>
> >> >> >> >> >wrote:
> >> >> >> >> >
> >> >> >> >> >>Okay, that is it!!!! (G)
> >> >> >> >> >
> >> >> >> >> >Aw, c'mon Fred. Admit it, you're loving the attention ;-)
> >> >> >> >>
> >> >> >> >
> >> >> >>
> >> >> >
> >> >>
> >> >
> >>
> >
>
