One of my daughters opted to live at home while attending a local junior college her first year.
She doesn't adapt easily to change and decided, after much hand-wringing, to ease into the post-
high school years. After the 1st year she transferred to a school in N. Carolina, and then, for
her final two years, transferred to Fisk in Nashville, where she graduated summa cum laude. She's
now had a few years out of college, working full-time, making the transition to independent adult,
and last month, started graduate school.
My other daughter, her twin, rushed off to college, ran into some problems, met someone, got
pregnant, had an abortion, took a year off from school, transferred, ran into some financial aid
difficulties, met someone, got pregnant, had my granddaughter, got married, and is now divorced.
She's digging her way up through the muck and still trying to establish her self-identity as an
independent adult. If all goes according to plan, she'll be returning to college in the fall,
working full-time, and being a single mom.
Sometimes you just never know how things will turn out. But I think your son showed great maturity
by looking at his options and deciding to give himself some time and space to figure it all out.
Glad to hear your daughter made it through the oral surgery OK. Mudslides could probably cure a
lot of ills.
Prairie Roots On Fri said:Thanks PR. So far he seems ok to me, has some spark back in his eyes and a new plan of attack. At
least he now sees there are still options in his life, this does not make him a failure. Tomorrow
(Friday) he is registering for classes at the local college, keep him going while giving him some
time to sort things out also. Guess he at least feels better knowing he would be allowed to make
whatever decision he felt was best for HIM, and mom/dad weren't going to beat him up over it. He
is 19, has a whole lot of time ahead of him to figure things out. <G>
Daughter came through the teeth pulling like a trooper - did beg for more than just a local
anesthetic though. I took her to the oral surgeon I have been to, is a wonderfully gentle and
caring man. He told her she could ABSOLUTELY have whatever she felt was needed, no way did he
want her fearing or feeling pain or any nervousness. She finally opted for a little bit of gas
along with the local. I could deal with that a lot better than the thought of the general
anesthetic. She didn't seem to have much pain, was taking some motrin though ... but thinks it
was more for the discomfort of the seperators that had also been put into her teeth. Today no
motrin, so she must be feeling much better.
I'm breathing, I'm breathing! Things have calmed down now, crisis appears to have passed. <G>
Joyce
On Tue, 10 Feb 2004 18:40:16 -0600, Prairie Roots <[email hidden]> wrote:
>Sounds like your son's in the middle of a major life crisis. I truly hope he comes through this
>whole, which most likely he will with you in his corner. I'm sorry you're having to suffer his
>anxiety as well.
>
>I feel for your daughter. Having braces put on is what turned me into a confirmed dentalphobe.
>Now I ask for general anesthetic every time I get my teeth cleaned; I settle for valium. Course
>if it was my daughter asking for general anesthetic, I'd be nervous.<G>
>
>I hope your day went better than it sounded in advance. Things can only look UP, right?! Take a
>few minutes for yourself, and remember to breathe.
>
>Prairie Roots
>
>On Tue, 10 Feb 2004 02:18:30 -0600, Joyce <[email hidden]> wrote:
>
>>Thanks PR. Todays plan of attack blew out the window ... along with yesterdays *good* set of
>>answers. <sigh> Tomorrow is another day, a few other options, then time to make some informed
>>decisions.
>>
>>Nothing overly major in the grand scheme of things, just blips in the road. Son hadn't been
>>doing well in college all year, grades dropped horrendously but he had said nothing. We worried
>>quietly here at home, while he tried valiantly to dig himself out. Turns out he was given a
>>bunch of bad information from his advisor and baseball coach ... took a class he had no need to
>>take ... entire grade turned out to be based solely on final exam, which turned out to be an
>>oral resume and job interview that was drawn out of a hat when he entered the class for the
>>exam (he drew a career he knew absolutely nothing about) ... failed thus making him ineligible
>>for baseball. In the grand scheme of things this is really unimportant ... to him it is the
>>world and he is currently shattered. He has had the carrot dangled in front of his nose, so to
>>speak - had pro scouts talking to him the last few months, telling him at this given moment he
>>has a 1:4 chance of being drafted
>>- not great but still not bad for a 19 year old. BUT he says needs to play for it to happen,
>> and it is his dream. So what do we do? Tell him to give up his dream? I think dreams are what
>> keep us going, keep us alive - I hate to just tell him to quit and grow up aleady. So this
>> week-end he has been investigating transferring schools. Yesterday he was all set up, went to
>> register today only to be told that the school he is currently at has a wierd class schedule
>> which has made him ineligible for transferring deadlines (current college is just starting a
>> new term, whereas other colleges are much further along already). It also explains why his
>> current school has so many transferring IN at this time of year. My heart once again broke
>> for him today when he came home, he looked so darned defeated. He is kicking himself for not
>> saying anything to us over the holidays, he didn't want to let us down. <which he never would
>> anyway>
>>
>>Had another heart to heart with him this afternoon, told him if he is really that unhappy where
>>he is at, then maybe consider transferring into the local jr. college during spring quarter ...
>>take some time to make a decision for next year. Does it make sense for him to stick it out
>>where he is currently at, only to not go back next year anyway? So tomorrow morning he is back
>>to the jr. college to talk to the coach there, see if maybe he can even just work out with the
>>team while attending classes ... talk to one other school in the area .... then back to current
>>school to see if he can sweet talk his professor into giving him an incomplete (probably not,
>>is a first year teacher who appears to be in authoratative mode). At least by knowing *answers*
>>hopefully he can make an informed decision and hopefully become more relaxed and happy.
>>
>>I'm out bright and early tomorrow morning with daughter, she has to have 2 teeth pulled for
>>braces ... then afternoon in traffic court with hubby who hit a woman who was backing down a
>>one way street ... it's gonna be another one of those looooooooong days. <sigh> I am incredibly
>>tired, yet can't sleep.
>>
>>Joyce
>>
>>On Mon, 09 Feb 2004 21:05:29 -0600, Prairie Roots <[email hidden]> wrote:
>>
>>>I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping that all works out well. Peace be with you.
>>>
>>>Prairie Roots On Mon, 09 Feb 2004 08:21:58 -0600, Joyce <[email hidden]> wrote:
>>>
>>>>I have no idea what trails they have, don't have the internet access set up in the basement.
>>>>And puh-lease don't give me any ideas about trying to tackle THAT job in the near future. <G>
>>>>
>>>>How come the treadmill you were on kept dropping the incline down? Or did I miss something
>>>>here? I haven't tried doing the incline at a slower pace - have found it is so much more
>>>>interesting (the after-effects) of hitting them at 4mph ... if I go any faster my little legs
>>>>will be jogging. <G>
>>>>
>>>>It's been another one of those long week-ends with no treadmill included - not pleasant stuff
>>>>going on. But we are hoping the situation now has some viable solutions ... will know more
>>>>today and definitive answers on Tuesday. So at least are moving in on some answers. Am hoping
>>>>to catch up on the newsgroup and emails, then get sonny boy out and moving ... then hit the
>>>>treadmill while awaiting todays set of answers. At least I got me a plan of attack today!
>>>>
>>>>Joyce
>>>>
>>>>On Thu, 05 Feb 2004 17:39:12 -0800, Fred <[email hidden]> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>Programming trails I'd love Yosemite.
>>>>>
>>>>>See if they have the Mt Si trail. 4 miles up with a gain of approx 3,400 feet.
>>>>>
>>>>>I just used the treadmill at work today for the 1st time. 15 minutes on hill work. But only
>>>>>about 2mph but I kept upping the slope to 10 whatever and it kept dropping it back down (G)
>>>>>
>>>>>On Thu, 05 Feb 2004 08:39:06 -0600, Joyce <[email hidden]> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>>hehehe - I don't know you, but I do know ME ... I am the burnout queen. <g> I even splurged
>>>>>>and bought myself a 13" television with a dvd player built in, to give me something to keep
>>>>>>my mind off of the boredom that can set in. Then splurged on some movies and television
>>>>>>series dvd's ... making the treadmill time, MY time and something to look forward to (a
>>>>>>bit). I still overdid things a bit yesterday, wanted to check out the even higher inclines
>>>>>>and see how much different they were. OY! They are tough, I think I at least now know
>>>>>>exactly what a high intensity workout is supposed to make you feel. LOL
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Yesterday was the first time I used the fan, not much need to when your basement is sitting
>>>>>>at about 30 degrees. I was in my sweats, had to throw my bathrobe on in addition ... and
>>>>>>after 15 minutes I had to turn the fan on. Oh, it is wonderful! Does your treadmill also
>>>>>>have the ability to be hooked into the manufacturers internet website for additional
>>>>>>programming and tracking? I haven't done it with mine, don't want to string any more cables
>>>>>>through the house, but it did sound really interesting and fun. Can hook it up, and get
>>>>>>programming on the computer monitor to walk through different scenery settings. And through
>>>>>>the website it will also automatically control/increase/decrease the incline and speed to
>>>>>>coincide with the terrain. Cool, huh? I didn't even realize this until I read the manual.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Joyce
>>>>>>
>>>>>>On Tue, 3 Feb 2004 06:32:07 -0600, "WannaBLean" <[email hidden]> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>I'm going to follow your advice. It's almost like you "know me". I DO burn out easily and
>>>>>>>I don't want to this time. Thank you for the good advice. Hugs. "Joyce" <[email hidden]>
>>>>>>>wrote in message "]news:[email hidden]...
>>>>>>>> I'm going by memory here, from posts I've seen from you throughout the
>>>>>>>week.
>>>>>>>> Haven't you just begun exercising recently? If so, your muscles are more
>>>>>>>than
>>>>>>>> likely hanging onto water while repairing the stress on them from the new activity. This
>>>>>>>> happened to me also, still does on occassion when I try to
>>>>>>>push
>>>>>>>> too hard, too fast. It takes awhile for the body to let go of the water,
>>>>>>>took me
>>>>>>>> a good two weeks in the beginning.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Just a suggestion from the non-exercise guru in the bunch ...
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> I read elsewhere that you were walking a mile a day, at a pace of 2MPH.
>>>>>>>This is a
>>>>>>>> great start, won't totally burn you out from overdoing in the beginning.
>>>>>>>Then I
>>>>>>>> read that you added the incline into the routine already. Myself, I would
>>>>>>>work on
>>>>>>>> the distance and speed first ... start gradually increasing the incline
>>>>>>>when you
>>>>>>>> can get your speed up to a cardio level maybe? I think I read somewhere
>>>>>>>recently
>>>>>>>> that a walking cardio level should be between 3MPH and 3.5 MPH - not too
>>>>>>>sure of
>>>>>>>> that though. The incline is a great workout, I love it myself - but I
>>>>>>>also didn't
>>>>>>>> add it until I was consistently up in speed and duration, as I felt it was
>>>>>>>tougher
>>>>>>>> on the legs (which may be why your body is hanging on to fluids???), thus
>>>>>>>causing
>>>>>>>> me to tire out faster. I've been working on the treadmill for many months
>>>>>>>now,
>>>>>>>> walk at 4MPH and a varying incline level of 4-8 ... and I tell ya, I start
>>>>>>>feeling
>>>>>>>> it at 20 minutes when on the higher incline - start declining the incline
>>>>>>>and
>>>>>>>> immediately notice the difference. Maybe you could work a few days at
>>>>>>>your 2MPH
>>>>>>>> level for 30 minutes (1 mile), then increase the speed by .1 or .2 MPH
>>>>>>>(I'm making
>>>>>>>> the assumption your treadmill is similar to mine ... fan and all) - go for
>>>>>>>another
>>>>>>>> few days and up the speed again. If you keep the length of time the same,
>>>>>>>you
>>>>>>>> will notice you are walking a bit further each day. You will still get
>>>>>>>the same
>>>>>>>> benefits of the flat workout, without overtiring yourself in the early
>>>>>>>stages -
>>>>>>>> which often leads to early burnout. Save that tough stuff for later!
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Just my 2 cents worth, anyway. <G>
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Joyce
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> On Mon, 2 Feb 2004 15:47:37 -0600, "WannaBLean" <[email hidden]>
>>>>>>>wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> >HOW??? I've even been exercising!! I am SO bummed out!
>>>>>>>> >
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>